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Leaders & Starting a Movement

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Derek Sivers’ TedTalk on How to Start a Movement
With help from some surprising footage, Derek Sivers explains how movements really get started. (Hint: it takes two.)

1. A leader needs the guts to stand out and be ridiculed but be easy to follow as well.

2. 1st follower has the most crucial role: They show everyone else how to follow.
In this step the Leader must embrace the 1st follower as an equal. It is no longer about the leader, it is about them…plural.

3. The 1st follower is the most underestimated one in leadership. They are the ones who call on more followers. The 1st follower is the one that transforms the 1st nut into a leader.

4. Enter in the 2nd follower and you start to have a crowd.
A Movement must be public. It is important to not just show the leader but the followers because New followers emulate the followers and not the leader.

5. You start having more followers and more followers and thus momentum and then a tipping point thus a MOVEMENT!

6. As more people join in, it is less risky. Those that were sitting on the fence before have no reason not to. They won’t stand out, they won’t be ridiculed but they will be part of the in crowd if they hurry.

7. Then you start to get the ones who like to stick with the crowd because they will be ridiculed for not being a part of it.

Recap:

1. If you are the 1st one, remember to treat and nurture your 1st followers and treat them as equals.

2. Leadership is often over-glorified. Yes it takes one to Stand Up And Lead but it is the 1st few followers who transform the “lone nut” into a leader.

Have the courage to follow and show others to follow. When you find a “lone nut” doing something great, have the guts to stand up and join in.

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Attitude of Graditude

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“Have an attitude of gratitude with a servant mindset and you, your life, business and company will blossom.”

This sticky note really resonates with me. As I travel across the USA I have been met with some interesting hiccups. Original flight supposed to leave at 6am. Was canceled for mechanical problems. Rebooked for 10am to be delayed to the point where I would miss a connection flight in LA. So back downstairs I go to rebook again, this time flight is out of San Francisco which requires a 2 hr taxi ride. By now many people would be upset and perhaps irrate but I choose different.  I am choosing to look at it as an opportunity to 1 get to my destination safely, 2 enjoy the people I meet in the process (some people watching & how they deal with stressful curcumstances), and 3 enjoy the journey. Boy what a journey it was! After 17hrs of travel to finally make it to NYC I met some great people; technology executives, business owners, assisted in comforting a upset women,  and was given a Sundae with a cherry on top while on the plane. Overall well worth the hours and in the process of being a part of others lives for a few minutes to a couple of hours I learned a lot about how we all are really connected. This journey allowed me to practice having an attitude of gratitude regardless the circumstances.

Wishing you all an amazing day.
Shay

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fear is trusting in your own power

“Fear is Trusting in your own Power.” – Marianne Williamson

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fear is trusting in your own power

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Wow. Anyone else get goosebumps after reading that quote? I sure did. It truly resonates with me. Personally I have been one who has fought with that. Fearing my own power. Being so incredibly powerful (not the power that would take over the world for my own selfish reasons) but a power that resides within and removes lack, worry and fear, when you think of something BAM! it is manifested. It already happens and I am amazed every time.  I know, like I know, like I know how the “Laws” work yet will it (trusting that power) consume me? Will it take me over? Will I loose all that I know as “Shay” and who she has been? Maybe. But what if the new Shay is so much better, so much more of service, can assist that many more people? Who am I to hold that back? How dare I hold that back? It also ties into the Phoenix which is a symbol that is sooooo me. So near and dear to my heart and is really who I am and am becoming. That symbol has also scared me ever since it showed up in a dream of mine that woke me up out of a dead sleep not too many years ago. (I will have to tell you more about the Phoenix another time but it is a really cool story!)

This quote also reminds me of Marianne’s other quote:

  • Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’ We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

 

I have even re-worked it, put it into more of an “I Am” statement, present tense form and this is what is on my bathroom mirror to read everyday.

“I am powerful beyond measure.

It is my light that empowers.

I am brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous.

I am a child of the Universe.

I play BIG to serve the world.

I am enlightened.

People feel secure around me.

I shine, just as children do.

I was born to make manifest the glory of God that is within me.

As I let my own light shine, I unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

I am liberated from my own fear.

My presence automatically liberates others.”

-Marianne Williamson re-written by Shay Wheat

 

The thing is we all have this immense power we possess and can tap into. The question is will we allow the fear to take over and leave the power within dormant or do we allow our own Phoenix to open its wings and be reborn to take flight once again. You are that powerful and to me it feels like it’s time that more and more of us trust in that fear of our power and let the light shine. It’s time to StandUpAndLead. Lead yourself and your presence will automatically liberate others to do the same.

I look forward to your comments and emails on times you have trusted your power, what you currently fear is holding you back and how you are taking action to move forward or looking for support to move forward. We are here to Shine and I am so excited to be on this journey with you. Let’s lock arms together and make a difference.

Love and Light,

Shay Wheat

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I want to inspire people. I want someone to look at me and say "Because of you I didn't give up."

Plan B, Status Quo, No Matter What!

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I want to inspire people. I want someone to look at me and say "Because of you I didn't give up."

I want to inspire people. I want someone to look at me and say “Because of you I didn’t give up.”

I am so proud of my friends!

Right now I have a number of friends who are going out into the world to make things happen. They are taking their lives into their own hands and not waiting around for what the Universe may drop into their lap.

No sirree-bob!

They are true definitions of people who StandUpAndLead in their own lives and in return it not only will manifest into something wonderful but the example they set for their kids, family, friends, co-workers, employees and people they touch is much further reaching.

They don’t settle for the Status Quo and in many cases are taking it upon themselves to change old structures that are no longer working. Looking at what doesn’t work, Masterminding, collaborating, calling in their connections and together creating a wave of change.

They are from all walks of life and backgrounds, from different states, foster homes, divorced homes and homes where parents have been happily married for 40+ years. No matter their circumstances and where they started they still have that internal drive and ambition, that “No MATTER WHAT”, can do attitude and knowing that “If it is meant to be, it is up to me”.

Granted as they travel down this path, as when we all do, it isn’t full of beautifully smelling roses. No we all get pricked by a rose thorn. The job doesn’t manifest the way we want, the speaking contract doesn’t go through, the invention direction & business plan takes a turn or business plan changes completely but that does not stop them.

Nope.

They keep moving forward. Onto Plan B.

They realize there are lots of options left. “How can I?”. They are the creators of their destiny, they dictate how they react in a situation and how they CHOOSE to move forward. For all they know it is a blessing in disguise to learn the lessons they had to learn in the moment to allow them to really appreciate and have the skills and background for the next adventure in their lives.

I am so Proud of them! They never give up. They keep moving forward. It is people like them who are the NEW leadership, the NEW movers and shakers, the NEW creators of a life worth living.

I am blessed to be surrounded by them. They inspire me. They inspired this writing today.

Thank you for being you, for making a difference in my life, a difference in the lives of others and because of that ripple effect who knows how many other lives will be touched and changed for the better forever. You are the people who will have others come up to you and say “Because of you, I didn’t give up.” If it has not happened yet…let me be the first!

Love You My Friends!

Shay Wheat

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Dreams don't come true because a person does something well once and a while...Dreams come true when someone performs with excellence day after day. -John Maxwell

How Dreams Come True

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Dreams don't come true because a person does something well once and a while...Dreams come true when someone performs with excellence day after day. -John Maxwell

Dreams don’t come true because a person does something well once and a while…Dreams come true when someone performs with excellence day after day. -John Maxwell

Sticky Note of the Day: “Dreams don’t come true because a person does something well once and a while…Dreams come true when someone performs with excellence day after day.” -John Maxwell

 

So really John, what you are saying is doing something consistently, everyday, no matter how small, is better than something big every now and then. Guess the way I look at it is “eat an apple a day vs 30 apples in one day!” (Whew that would be a TON of apples if you did it all in one day). Okay I get it.

Mr. Maxwell also speaks about how he makes sure he does 5 things, just 5 everyday. Rain or shine, holidays, birthdays, weekends, everyday, 5 things to assist him in his goals, dreams, aspirations and development of himself and his leadership. Would you like to know what he does?

 

 

John Maxwell’s Rule of 5:

1. Reads

2. Files his ideas

3. Asks Questions

4. Thinks

5. Writes

That’s it. They aren’t huge. They aren’t hard but over time it adds up…BIG TIME! He has been doing this for years and it has become a habit. He is someone who performs with excellence day after day in these 5 key areas. After knowing this it makes sense how to date he has written more than 60 books and has been featured multiple times in SUCCESS Magazine, not to mention all of his speaking engagements and training new trainers.

How does this fit into your world? What 5 things or even 1, 2, 3 things would you commit to do, everyday if it meant you could turn your dreams into reality? Are your dreams worth it? It reminds me of the old saying “It you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” These 5 things for John Maxwell are part of his plan to achieve what he desires in this lifetime.

Can’t think of anything at the moment? Use John’s 5 things. It works, just tailor it to you in terms of what to read, filing ideas/quotes/thoughts/messages/etc. Make it your own, do it consistently and in the direction of your dreams then watch them become reality.

Easy to do, easy not to do. How bad do you want it?

 

Dream Big my friends,

Shay

 

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What others think about you ISN'T important...what you think about yourself means EVERYTHING!

What others Think vs What you Think

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What others think about you ISN'T important...what you think about yourself means EVERYTHING!

What others think about you ISN’T important…what you think about yourself means EVERYTHING!

 

Sticky Note of the Day: “What others think about you ISN’T important…what you think about yourself means EVERYTHING!”

When in our developmental cycle of growing up do we learn that other people’s opinion of us is more important than how we feel, think and see ourselves? If you look at a baby or young child they are so happy and excited to learn and discover new things about themselves and their environment (oh look, at toe!)  that they really don’t seem all that interested in what we (and others) think about them finding their toe.

However somewhere in that growing up process we “Learn” that we are to put others thoughts, feelings, and desires above our own. We stop listening to our Gut and our intuition and start “people pleasing”.

WHY!!??

What does that do for us? Where has it taken us? Granted I am not saying do things out of spite just to hurt another but if you truly want to (or not want to) do something why not go after it. Why do we feel like we don’t deserve our dreams because it may inconvenience someone else for the time being?

I feel it is time for us to Stand Up And Lead ourselves again. Discover new things and create new experiences. They don’t have to be huge and drastic but why not go to the beach one weekend, perhaps by yourself because you have had a internal feeling or “calling” to go. You are always in choice and you always have options. It is time to stop making excuses and FIND A WAY to make it happen. Ask friends and family if they can watch the kids for the day or a few hours even. Save your Starbucks money for a week and use the money for gas to make that trip to the beach.

W.I.T.=Whatever it Takes

W.I.T. to start believing in you again and not allowing that gripping hold of what others MIGHT be thinking about you. You have one life to live so why not start living it! The time is now. Make it happen. I believe in you. You have the means to change your life. The real question is…are you ready?

I look forward to seeing you on your own “beach” whatever that may mean for you.

Much Love,

Shay

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Face Your Fears

Face Your Fears…It’s the New Normal

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Face Your Fears

Face Your Fears

“When I get scared, my 1st instinct is to run away or shut my eyes real tight or both at the same time. But if you run around with your eyes closed, not only do you bump into walls a lot, you miss out on seeing some pretty amazing stuff. So what I am learning is to face my fears head on. I don’t run anymore and I don’t cover my eyes.  I am embracing my fears as they are the seeds of a new life. They bring new joys and new dreams. When I look my fears straight in the eye…I see… My FUTURE.”

- Character Goldie Clemmons from TV show The New Normal

 

 

Love that quote!

Probably because I can relate to it, have experienced it and to this day work on facing my fears head on with my eyes open. It isn’t easy but the BEST experiences I have had thus far have come from doing things that scared me and were “outside my box”.

“I am embracing my fears as they are the seeds of a new life.” WOW! How powerful! Just imagine if you were to shift your thoughts to embrace your fears and see them as seeds of a new life. How would your life change? What if you did it for a month, a week or even a day? Can you imagine what experiences you would have? If you think of the old adage “Fear=False Evidence Appearing Real” then who’s to say that Fear can’t be turned into Following Experiences Appreciating Reality. Now that is my kind of FEAR!

So as you go through your day today and into tomorrow, face your FEARs, follow those experiences and appreciate the reality of those seeds of a new life that you are creating for yourself. You Deserve it! Now go make it happen! I will see you at the top and look forward to swapping our NEW FEAR stories because that deserves to be the New Normal.

 

Your fellow NEW FEAR Normal friend,

Shay Wheat

 

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Friends are in it for the long haul

Return to Happiness: Great Friends are in it for the Long Haul

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Today’s post is a guest post from a dear friend of mine Ryan John Phillips, creator of Return To Happiness. I had the pleasure of meeting Ryan at the beginning of this year and he is one of those friends that when you meet it feels like you have known them forever! Please take a look at the great things Ryan is doing in the world and enjoy his guest post today.
Friends are in it for the long haul

Friends are in it for the long haul

What would we do without “true” friends in our lives? I know my friends and family make up my world. What is a true friend? A true friend is a person who is in your life, that loves you unconditionally with no judgement. We all go through experiences and tests in life and it’s the people that stay by your side (no matter what) that are to be cherished and held in the highest ranks of friendship. Being a true friend back is also a very important factor in the growth of any relationship. It’s also very important not to dump too many of your issues onto friends for the benefit of their own well being. There’s such a thing as energy “givers” and “takers.” You know the people that drain you sometimes because their paradigms are stuck in negative thought patters. Our duty as friends is to help elevate, and inspire to bring out the best in others. Our own actions is what immediately draws people to us in the first place and they don’t always have to come through the words we speak, instead by the deeds we perform. I’ve been guilty in my past of flash judgments and putting down others, but ask yourself what good that does for you and the other person? How does it make your body and mind feel? Not very good in most cases and it really serves no purpose either as everything is reciprocated back through the law of compensation. My idealism’s have changed a lot in my thirties on what the true meaning of this word we call friendship is. I just do my best to be present and give good advice. When we sow good deeds to others in the form of being a great friend the reward is one that can’t be matched by anything. It’s a great to have like beings laughing joyously and also to share tears as well. That’s what makes true friendship real and so worth while. I’m sure you have one friend that sticks out in mind that is your rock. Do both of yourselves a favor today and tell he or she how much you care about them and make today one of joy, bliss and love.

God Bless RJP.
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Find out what you do well then find a way to do that for the rest of your life.

What do you do well?

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Find out what you do well then find a way to do that for the rest of your life. Sticky note for today:

 Find out what you do WELL then find a way to do that for the rest of your life.

 

Yesterday I had an amazing meeting with 2 leaders making a difference in our school system. One was telling a story about a young woman, from a tough neighborhood and school that had been receiving D’s and F’s on her report card in high school. Their organization had gone in with a health program and the on-site coordinator and this young woman really connected on a mentor-mentee basis. It was in that class that the student received A’s across the board. This program was assisting students to find out what they did well and encouraged them to go after their dreams. This student ended up getting a scholarship after a panel interview to go to culinary school.

How POWERFUL is that!

What our school system deemed as a child who was below average in school found something, was encouraged and guided toward the thing that she was passionate about and she went after it!

What do you do well? What are you passionate about? What would you do if time and money were no object…what would you be doing tomorrow? What is your hobby? What would you be doing the rest of your life if you got paid for it or not? Whatever that is (and you may deserve to practice “dreaming” again) do it, start it, pick it back up again, do it in your free time, in your spare time and who knows…it may just become your new profession.

Dream BIG my friends!

Shay

 

p.s. Take a look at HealthCorps and the wonderful things they are doing!
https://healthcorps.org/

 

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excuses are well planned lies

Don’t Try…Do!

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The theme with a few of my clients recently seemed to stem around “try” and this is my return thought:

If you are taking action, even a little bit, everyday, you are getting closer and closer to your dreams. So in my book that is more than trying, that is doing. Give yourself credit for doing, not trying.

yoda try not do or do not there is no try
To quote Yoda “NO! Try Not! Do or Do Not, There is no try.”

 

 

Maybe it is just me but I seem to have an adverse reaction when I hear the word Try.  I will try and make it. I heard someone tried something like that and they failed. I try and I try and I try….

Ah! Stop Trying and start Doing!

Try isn’t a very empowering word is it? It feels weak and perhaps just a nice way of saying NO or an “easy” way to have an excuse. What is an excuse?
I recently saw this picture that sums up the physical reaction I feel.

excuses are well planned lies

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Stop lying to yourself and to the ones you try with.
Whenever I hear try from someone it is pretty much a “No” in my book and if they show up, or come through then it is a pleasant surprise! Otherwise I don’t expect whatever they are trying” to do will actually come to fruition.

So how do we change our language to not incorporate such a weak word, that really doesn’t give us power and essentially is a nice way of saying “no”, aka not speaking our truth and essentially is an excuses or Lie?

1. If you really want to see how often you say the word “try“, keep a piece of paper with you and for a week (or maybe you will get the lesson in a day) every time you hear the word try and every time you hear yourself say try mark it down on the paper. One column for you and one column for hearing the word from others.

2. Now that you are aware of the word try, catch yourself either before you say it or right after you say it and replace it with a new word, such as “will” or “will not”. Yes you will be forced to make a decision here. Instead of “I will try to make the game tonight”, change to “I (will/will not) make it to the game tonight”. If you can’t quite make it there start with “As of right now it does not appear I will make the game, but if anything changes I will let you know”.  Essentially you are almost saying the same thing as try but this way is being more upfront that you are leaning towards the “will not” vs “will” show up. Granted if you can go straight to “will or will not” both you and the other person in the situation will know exactly where you stand.

Now you are not a horrible person if you say try but I would encourage you to test yourself as well as start building the intestinal fortitude to speak your truth. You don’t have to go to every event, and help everyone with everything. By taking try out of your vocabulary it forces you to make decision. When you make decisions you are no longer “wishy-washy”, you have strength and direction. Trust me, people’s feelings won’t be as hurt if you say you won’t do something vs if you say you will try and then don’t. You will be more loved and respected because people will know where you stand and you will know that for your self as well. There is strength in that knowledge.

Looking forward to enjoying a world that removes the word TRY and speaks their truth.

Now go out, take action and make things happen!

All the best,

Shay

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