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Friends are in it for the long haul

Return to Happiness: Great Friends are in it for the Long Haul

Today’s post is a guest post from a dear friend of mine Ryan John Phillips, creator of Return To Happiness. I had the pleasure of meeting Ryan at the beginning of this year and he is one of those friends that when you meet it feels like you have known them forever! Please take a look at the great things Ryan is doing in the world and enjoy his guest post today.
Friends are in it for the long haul

Friends are in it for the long haul

What would we do without “true” friends in our lives? I know my friends and family make up my world. What is a true friend? A true friend is a person who is in your life, that loves you unconditionally with no judgement. We all go through experiences and tests in life and it’s the people that stay by your side (no matter what) that are to be cherished and held in the highest ranks of friendship. Being a true friend back is also a very important factor in the growth of any relationship. It’s also very important not to dump too many of your issues onto friends for the benefit of their own well being. There’s such a thing as energy “givers” and “takers.” You know the people that drain you sometimes because their paradigms are stuck in negative thought patters. Our duty as friends is to help elevate, and inspire to bring out the best in others. Our own actions is what immediately draws people to us in the first place and they don’t always have to come through the words we speak, instead by the deeds we perform. I’ve been guilty in my past of flash judgments and putting down others, but ask yourself what good that does for you and the other person? How does it make your body and mind feel? Not very good in most cases and it really serves no purpose either as everything is reciprocated back through the law of compensation. My idealism’s have changed a lot in my thirties on what the true meaning of this word we call friendship is. I just do my best to be present and give good advice. When we sow good deeds to others in the form of being a great friend the reward is one that can’t be matched by anything. It’s a great to have like beings laughing joyously and also to share tears as well. That’s what makes true friendship real and so worth while. I’m sure you have one friend that sticks out in mind that is your rock. Do both of yourselves a favor today and tell he or she how much you care about them and make today one of joy, bliss and love.

God Bless RJP.
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The 3Rs: Recharge, Relax and Reflect

The 3 R’s: Recharge – Relax – Reflect

The 3Rs: Recharge, Relax and Reflect

The 3Rs: Recharge, Relax and Reflect

Ah Yes, The 3Rs….no not Reduce, Reuse and Recycle (even though that is a good one too) but my 3Rs are:



Today I had someone ask me if I had something fun and exciting happening this beautiful Sunday. My answer…”Today is a lazy Sunday, been busy this past month, time for some down time. Recharge, Relax, Reflect.” It was totally in the moment but it rang so true that I thought I would share it with you.

But first you need a beautiful picture to go with the mood of the words right? This is the view from my friend’s place up in Canada. How wonderful to wake up to this landscape! A place that one can truly Recharge – Relax – Reflect. Although it isn’t necessary to be in a place like this to still incorporate the 3Rs into your world.

What does it mean to:
Restore an electric charge by connecting to a device that draws power from another source.

Make or become less tense or anxious. Rest or engage in an enjoyable activity so as to become less tired or anxious.

(of a surface or body) Throw back (heat, light, or sound) without absorbing it.
Great, so now that we know the definitions, how do we incorporate it into our lives?
Many of us are “non-stop” always moving, having to take care of something or someone, right? I am all for being productive and making things happen but I also realize that we live in a world of opposites, yin and yang, light and dark, up and down, stop and go. Thus if we are in the go-go-go phase and never incorporate a stop the universe will always make sure we take one. When that happens it is usually a stop that we are not very happy with because it is usually a stop (cold/flu/injury/etc)  that will take us out of the game for a longer period of time than if we incorporated the stop ourselves.

Thus the reason for a day of Recharge – Relax – Reflect. This is a “stop” in my world of go-go-go. There are many ways of Recharging, Relaxing and Reflecting. Some like to read, travel, go snowboarding or other outdoor activities, sit in the park, visit friends, shop, yoga, meditate, take a bubble bath, walk around the block, heck even zoning out in front of the TV/Hulu/Netflix if you have a problem “turning off your brain” is an option.  Whatever options work for you, work on incorporating it into you weekly/monthly and if you are really making things happen, daily life and routine.

The Reflecting part is the section most people forget. They like the Recharge and Relax since it is fun, easy and pretty painless. The Reflecting part takes a little more work and if you are already a go-go-go person more work after some Relaxation and Recharging doesn’t always seem like the best thing to do. However, Reflecting will give you the greatest ROI down the road.


Perhaps you are doing things that could be done faster, easier and with less effort by “tweaking” a few things to make your processes better. Perhaps there are things and people in your world who are no longer going in the same direction as you are and it is time that they become a more part-time or every-once-n-awhile friend. Although how are you to discover this if you don’t take time to Reflect upon what is working and what is not. By Recharging and Relaxing first it gives our brain an opportunity to “chill”, remove it’s self from the situation or circumstances of life to give us a renewed perspective. Also it will ramp us back up into the go-go-go.

So what did I do today to Recharge-Relax-Reflect?
Worked out, Meditated, Watched some Hulu (since I haven’t had a TV for 10+yrs), Looked at some of my new Rocks (I got some pretty nice ones that I will be creating gifts with), Read a little about Reflexology & a bit from “Think and Grow Rich”, Had dinner with my family and played with my 3 yr old Nephew, Spoke with my friend from Canada that started my Reflecting process, Looked at and added to my White Board of Ideas/Projects/To-Do’s/Etc, and Wrote out the 3R’s. Living what I teach and teaching what I learn.

Hope this sparks and ignites within you the reminder to take time for the 3Rs.

Look forward to hearing your comments and emails on what you do to Recharge-Relax-Reflect.




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Wednesday Notes- February 29, 2012 Happy Leap Year Day & Canada love


“What you believe has more power than what you dream or wish or hope for. You become what you believe.” – Oprah Winfrey, chairman, Harpo, Inc., 2010 Minerva Award Recipient

there are so many people out there who will tell you that you can't. what you've got to do is turn around and say "watch me". -unknown

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From Ryan while in Canada, thanks Ryan.

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