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Vision so clear, fears become irrelevant

Make Your Vision So Clear That Your Fears Become Irrelevant

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Vision so clear, fears become irrelevant

Make Your Vision So Clear That Your Fears Become Irrelevant

I recently attended an event by Brendon Burchard called “High Performance Academy”.

The above statement so rings true for me after that event. It was an opportunity for me to re-engage my life and business and get back in touch with my vision and dreams. When you have no vision and no goal, how do you know what you are aiming for? How do you take the next best step in turning your dreams into reality? How do you even remember what your dreams are if you don’t have a vision?

It is so easy to get lost in the everyday routine of life and lose sight of what drives you, what you want to accomplish and what things on your Live List you want to see and do before you kick the bucket. It is why I love attending events. They allow me to re-engage and help keep me moving forward. Events also allow me to connect with other like-minded individuals who are out there making a difference in the world. That alone is INSPIRING and depending on someone else’s vision and how big it is, that might just kick you in the booty to step up your game as well.

After all when the vision is clear, no fear will stop you from achieving it.

Action Step: grab a pen and paper and jot down your vision. Dream again. Make it so clear that you can see it and practically touch it, it is so real.
Then feel free to comment below. You never know, your vision may just be the catalyst for another to step up their game.

 

Many blessings,

Shay

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You Will never find what you have...until you "let go" of what you had.

Never Find it until you let it go

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You Will never find what you have...until you "let go" of what you had. “You will never find what you have…until you “Let Go” of what you had.”

Stuck in the Past? Unable to let go of what was in order to participate in the here and now? It is called Being in the Moment. The past is history and tomorrow is a mystery, all we have is the moment and that is why they call it Present.

That is all we ever really have, the present moment. The past gives us some background knowledge, it gives us stepping-stones, it gives us possible clues in order to navigate the present and future. However, the past does not dictate how we choose to move forward in the present moment. The past is what we remember, our perception of events and outcomes.

Key word is Perception.

How we “saw” things transpire. Now that perception was based on knowledge you had at that point in time in your life. The thing is, you are constantly learning and growing (whether you like it or not :-) Meaning that you could be in the same situation once again and your 1st thought will be to pull upon past experiences to give you background on how to move forward. However what if you were to look at this experience again with new eyes? How might things change? How will letting go of the past, what you had, serve you now in the present moment? What new tools and experiences have you learned for possible new outcomes?

Funny thing about the past, it can never be changed. The only thing that can change is your perspective and how you choose to move forward. Will you hold onto the past and recreate the same experiences over and over expecting different results? Will you acknowledge the past, recognize it for the lesson it taught you and choose different, choose another route moving forward? Will you completely abandon it and choose to look at each new experience with fresh eyes and every time the past creeps back up say “Thank you but I choose not to view things from a past perspective”? There is no right or wrong in these questions and your choice in choosing per experience. My intention is to bring it to your awareness and remind you that you are in choice.

Many times we get stuck and are unable to move forward because we choose to believe things will always stay the same because of our past experiences. We choose not to Let Go and we will continue to have opportunities arise to learn the same lesson over and over until we get it.  If this is you, may I suggest stepping back, taking a breath and asking for a new option, a new possibility to present itself. Heck if you don’t like that outcome you can always go back to what you were doing (however I have a feeling you weren’t too happy with that outcome anyway. Right?).

Alternatively, when we do get an opportunity to let go it allows us to free up space for something new or perhaps something that has always been there but we were unable to see because we were focused elsewhere. You have the tools, knowledge, strength and skill within you to find the answers and things you seek. Unfortunately, many of us have also learned and adopted other thoughts that cause doubt, fear and lack to creep into our mindset and do their best to keep us there.

My hope is that today will assist you in taking a moment to step back and look at things in your world from a different perspective, a different view-point, and at the very least taking a moment to breathe before doing what you have always done in the past.

Otherwise, “You will never find what you have…until you “Let Go” of what you had.”

Many Blessings & Prosperous Regards,

Shay

 

p.s. A recent trip to Carmel brought me a similar perspective in this Shayism: Waves effect on the Past, Present and Future

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What others think about you ISN'T important...what you think about yourself means EVERYTHING!

What others Think vs What you Think

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What others think about you ISN'T important...what you think about yourself means EVERYTHING!

What others think about you ISN’T important…what you think about yourself means EVERYTHING!

 

Sticky Note of the Day: “What others think about you ISN’T important…what you think about yourself means EVERYTHING!”

When in our developmental cycle of growing up do we learn that other people’s opinion of us is more important than how we feel, think and see ourselves? If you look at a baby or young child they are so happy and excited to learn and discover new things about themselves and their environment (oh look, at toe!)  that they really don’t seem all that interested in what we (and others) think about them finding their toe.

However somewhere in that growing up process we “Learn” that we are to put others thoughts, feelings, and desires above our own. We stop listening to our Gut and our intuition and start “people pleasing”.

WHY!!??

What does that do for us? Where has it taken us? Granted I am not saying do things out of spite just to hurt another but if you truly want to (or not want to) do something why not go after it. Why do we feel like we don’t deserve our dreams because it may inconvenience someone else for the time being?

I feel it is time for us to Stand Up And Lead ourselves again. Discover new things and create new experiences. They don’t have to be huge and drastic but why not go to the beach one weekend, perhaps by yourself because you have had a internal feeling or “calling” to go. You are always in choice and you always have options. It is time to stop making excuses and FIND A WAY to make it happen. Ask friends and family if they can watch the kids for the day or a few hours even. Save your Starbucks money for a week and use the money for gas to make that trip to the beach.

W.I.T.=Whatever it Takes

W.I.T. to start believing in you again and not allowing that gripping hold of what others MIGHT be thinking about you. You have one life to live so why not start living it! The time is now. Make it happen. I believe in you. You have the means to change your life. The real question is…are you ready?

I look forward to seeing you on your own “beach” whatever that may mean for you.

Much Love,

Shay

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The 3Rs: Recharge, Relax and Reflect

The 3 R’s: Recharge – Relax – Reflect

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The 3Rs: Recharge, Relax and Reflect

The 3Rs: Recharge, Relax and Reflect

Ah Yes, The 3Rs….no not Reduce, Reuse and Recycle (even though that is a good one too) but my 3Rs are:

Recharge
Relax
Reflect

 

Today I had someone ask me if I had something fun and exciting happening this beautiful Sunday. My answer…”Today is a lazy Sunday, been busy this past month, time for some down time. Recharge, Relax, Reflect.” It was totally in the moment but it rang so true that I thought I would share it with you.

But first you need a beautiful picture to go with the mood of the words right? This is the view from my friend’s place up in Canada. How wonderful to wake up to this landscape! A place that one can truly Recharge – Relax – Reflect. Although it isn’t necessary to be in a place like this to still incorporate the 3Rs into your world.

What does it mean to:
Recharge?
Restore an electric charge by connecting to a device that draws power from another source.

Relax?
Make or become less tense or anxious. Rest or engage in an enjoyable activity so as to become less tired or anxious.

Reflect?
(of a surface or body) Throw back (heat, light, or sound) without absorbing it.
Great, so now that we know the definitions, how do we incorporate it into our lives?
Many of us are “non-stop” always moving, having to take care of something or someone, right? I am all for being productive and making things happen but I also realize that we live in a world of opposites, yin and yang, light and dark, up and down, stop and go. Thus if we are in the go-go-go phase and never incorporate a stop the universe will always make sure we take one. When that happens it is usually a stop that we are not very happy with because it is usually a stop (cold/flu/injury/etc)  that will take us out of the game for a longer period of time than if we incorporated the stop ourselves.

Thus the reason for a day of Recharge – Relax – Reflect. This is a “stop” in my world of go-go-go. There are many ways of Recharging, Relaxing and Reflecting. Some like to read, travel, go snowboarding or other outdoor activities, sit in the park, visit friends, shop, yoga, meditate, take a bubble bath, walk around the block, heck even zoning out in front of the TV/Hulu/Netflix if you have a problem “turning off your brain” is an option.  Whatever options work for you, work on incorporating it into you weekly/monthly and if you are really making things happen, daily life and routine.

The Reflecting part is the section most people forget. They like the Recharge and Relax since it is fun, easy and pretty painless. The Reflecting part takes a little more work and if you are already a go-go-go person more work after some Relaxation and Recharging doesn’t always seem like the best thing to do. However, Reflecting will give you the greatest ROI down the road.

Why?

Perhaps you are doing things that could be done faster, easier and with less effort by “tweaking” a few things to make your processes better. Perhaps there are things and people in your world who are no longer going in the same direction as you are and it is time that they become a more part-time or every-once-n-awhile friend. Although how are you to discover this if you don’t take time to Reflect upon what is working and what is not. By Recharging and Relaxing first it gives our brain an opportunity to “chill”, remove it’s self from the situation or circumstances of life to give us a renewed perspective. Also it will ramp us back up into the go-go-go.

So what did I do today to Recharge-Relax-Reflect?
Worked out, Meditated, Watched some Hulu (since I haven’t had a TV for 10+yrs), Looked at some of my new Rocks (I got some pretty nice ones that I will be creating gifts with), Read a little about Reflexology & a bit from “Think and Grow Rich”, Had dinner with my family and played with my 3 yr old Nephew, Spoke with my friend from Canada that started my Reflecting process, Looked at and added to my White Board of Ideas/Projects/To-Do’s/Etc, and Wrote out the 3R’s. Living what I teach and teaching what I learn.

Hope this sparks and ignites within you the reminder to take time for the 3Rs.

Look forward to hearing your comments and emails on what you do to Recharge-Relax-Reflect.

Enjoy!!!

 

 

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Super Bowl XLVII in 2013

San Francisco 49er’s Football, Super Bowl, Friends & Fellowship

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Super Bowl XLVII in 2013

Super Bowl XLVII in 2013

For some, yesterday’s Super Bowl was a sad day. Many fans really would have wished the referees didn’t miss that call, would have thrown a flag or some other countless mishaps that occurred in the game. For me, I am not the biggest football fan. However yesterday was not about football for me. It was about spending time with my family, friends, meeting new people and having fellowship (I was hoping for some awesome Super Bowl commercials as well :-) ). The day started out with a great family breakfast, a trip to drop off some custom-made football cookies to my mom that my sis-in-law and I made the day before, then back to my brother’s house to prepare some food and await for the guests to arrive. Friends came in and out throughout the day bringing with them love, laughter, experiences, life updates and hopefully leaving a little better than when they showed up.

Sometimes we deserve to take a little time out to put ourselves in experiences that may be outside our comfort zone or in an activity that we may not “enjoy” however if we choose to get past the pain and/or annoyance of the event we can experience the benefit of the people you get to meet! This usually tends to be much better than expected. I know for me I had the opportunity to offer some of my knowledge and skill, open the door to take a look at a few books I have been reading and suggest to other which I feel will really assist them in their lives (The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
was one of those book recommendations). This is part of what I love to do, assisting people. So even though I didn’t know a whole lot of what was going on in the game, the names of the players and why the power outage occurred, I did learn from a few people who started to explain things to me, I did get to offer some guidance and suggestions and throughout the day…laughed and smiled a whole lot!

Thank you for an amazing Super bowl Sunday!

Light and Love,
Shay Wheat

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Just because you ask for help… doesn't mean you failed.

Just because you ask for help… doesn’t mean you failed.

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I recently had the opportunity to ask my network, my community, friends and loved ones for some help and assistance.  I was in a moment of emotional growth.

What exactly does that mean Shay?

Frankly…I was balling my eyes out!

Now in the past I would have just pulled out my journal or notebook paper, start writing and processing the feelings and emotions.  This time however it was different. I have been working very diligently on opening my heart more.  In this heart space there is no room for ego, drama, and negativity thus me reaching out to my community and asking for some extra love as I was hurting so deeply is no longer seen as a weakness for me, whereas before I thought I failed if I couldn’t figure it out on my own.  I no longer feel I must (nor do I desire) to sit in a room by myself and figure it out on my own. Now by connecting with your friends and community I’m not saying call ALL your friends up and start replaying the emotional story over and over but a few people are fine or you can simply ask (perhaps text, being that we are in an age of technology) something similar to this, “I don’t need to talk but if you could send me some good love and vibes right now I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you. :-)”. This worked well for me, one: it was getting late, two: I was crying hard and didn’t feel like explaining anything to anyone, three: my community is very loving and willing to help each other when we require it, no matter what, and four: I just required a little “love backup”, not anyone to “fix me” just loving support…that’s what I asked for and that is exactly what I got!

The responses I received were “Absolutely”, “Of Course”, “Done Deal”, and “My Pleasure”.

Just knowing that I don’t always have to be the strong one is very comforting. I can allow myself to “water my growth” (that’s what I call crying) and know that I have people who will send me love as I do my work on me and that I am not alone.

The important thing to remember is to reach out. If I didn’t reach out, no one would know to send me that extra burst of love when I really required it and I don’t feel I would have been able to heal as fast without it.

Remember we are all emotional human beings that have trials, tribulations and adversities. No one person is “strong enough” to handle it all on their own. That’s why and how we connect with the people we connect with, so we can help each other when the going gets tough.  Don’t let your pride and ego get in the way of your healing. Who knows, it might actually open a door for you that you may never would have thought of or make a connection with someone who will alter the course of your life for the better. However, for the potential for something like that to occur, you must let down your guard, be your true authentic self and open up that heart space.

Thank you to those in my community who answered my request for extra love that night.

I appreciate you!

Much love and gratitude,

Shay Wheat

 

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Tuesday Notes – May 8, 2012

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“Choose a goal… and I promise you you’ll surprise yourself.” – Jenny Lynn, 12 time IFBB pro figure champion, including the 2003-2005 Arnold Classic Figure International Champion and the 2006-2007 Figure Olympia Champion.

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Thursday Notes – February 23, 2012

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“We have a choice to use the gift of our lives to make the world a better place.” – Jane Goodall, Founder, the Jane Goodall Institute and UN Messenger of Peace, 2009 Minerva Award Recipient

 

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