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Vision so clear, fears become irrelevant

Make Your Vision So Clear That Your Fears Become Irrelevant

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Vision so clear, fears become irrelevant

Make Your Vision So Clear That Your Fears Become Irrelevant

I recently attended an event by Brendon Burchard called “High Performance Academy”.

The above statement so rings true for me after that event. It was an opportunity for me to re-engage my life and business and get back in touch with my vision and dreams. When you have no vision and no goal, how do you know what you are aiming for? How do you take the next best step in turning your dreams into reality? How do you even remember what your dreams are if you don’t have a vision?

It is so easy to get lost in the everyday routine of life and lose sight of what drives you, what you want to accomplish and what things on your Live List you want to see and do before you kick the bucket. It is why I love attending events. They allow me to re-engage and help keep me moving forward. Events also allow me to connect with other like-minded individuals who are out there making a difference in the world. That alone is INSPIRING and depending on someone else’s vision and how big it is, that might just kick you in the booty to step up your game as well.

After all when the vision is clear, no fear will stop you from achieving it.

Action Step: grab a pen and paper and jot down your vision. Dream again. Make it so clear that you can see it and practically touch it, it is so real.
Then feel free to comment below. You never know, your vision may just be the catalyst for another to step up their game.

 

Many blessings,

Shay

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Leaders & Starting a Movement

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Derek Sivers’ TedTalk on How to Start a Movement
With help from some surprising footage, Derek Sivers explains how movements really get started. (Hint: it takes two.)

1. A leader needs the guts to stand out and be ridiculed but be easy to follow as well.

2. 1st follower has the most crucial role: They show everyone else how to follow.
In this step the Leader must embrace the 1st follower as an equal. It is no longer about the leader, it is about them…plural.

3. The 1st follower is the most underestimated one in leadership. They are the ones who call on more followers. The 1st follower is the one that transforms the 1st nut into a leader.

4. Enter in the 2nd follower and you start to have a crowd.
A Movement must be public. It is important to not just show the leader but the followers because New followers emulate the followers and not the leader.

5. You start having more followers and more followers and thus momentum and then a tipping point thus a MOVEMENT!

6. As more people join in, it is less risky. Those that were sitting on the fence before have no reason not to. They won’t stand out, they won’t be ridiculed but they will be part of the in crowd if they hurry.

7. Then you start to get the ones who like to stick with the crowd because they will be ridiculed for not being a part of it.

Recap:

1. If you are the 1st one, remember to treat and nurture your 1st followers and treat them as equals.

2. Leadership is often over-glorified. Yes it takes one to Stand Up And Lead but it is the 1st few followers who transform the “lone nut” into a leader.

Have the courage to follow and show others to follow. When you find a “lone nut” doing something great, have the guts to stand up and join in.

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Find out what you do well then find a way to do that for the rest of your life.

What do you do well?

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Find out what you do well then find a way to do that for the rest of your life. Sticky note for today:

 Find out what you do WELL then find a way to do that for the rest of your life.

 

Yesterday I had an amazing meeting with 2 leaders making a difference in our school system. One was telling a story about a young woman, from a tough neighborhood and school that had been receiving D’s and F’s on her report card in high school. Their organization had gone in with a health program and the on-site coordinator and this young woman really connected on a mentor-mentee basis. It was in that class that the student received A’s across the board. This program was assisting students to find out what they did well and encouraged them to go after their dreams. This student ended up getting a scholarship after a panel interview to go to culinary school.

How POWERFUL is that!

What our school system deemed as a child who was below average in school found something, was encouraged and guided toward the thing that she was passionate about and she went after it!

What do you do well? What are you passionate about? What would you do if time and money were no object…what would you be doing tomorrow? What is your hobby? What would you be doing the rest of your life if you got paid for it or not? Whatever that is (and you may deserve to practice “dreaming” again) do it, start it, pick it back up again, do it in your free time, in your spare time and who knows…it may just become your new profession.

Dream BIG my friends!

Shay

 

p.s. Take a look at HealthCorps and the wonderful things they are doing!
https://healthcorps.org/

 

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Don’t Try…Do!

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The theme with a few of my clients recently seemed to stem around “try” and this is my return thought:

If you are taking action, even a little bit, everyday, you are getting closer and closer to your dreams. So in my book that is more than trying, that is doing. Give yourself credit for doing, not trying.

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To quote Yoda “NO! Try Not! Do or Do Not, There is no try.”

 

 

Maybe it is just me but I seem to have an adverse reaction when I hear the word Try.  I will try and make it. I heard someone tried something like that and they failed. I try and I try and I try….

Ah! Stop Trying and start Doing!

Try isn’t a very empowering word is it? It feels weak and perhaps just a nice way of saying NO or an “easy” way to have an excuse. What is an excuse?
I recently saw this picture that sums up the physical reaction I feel.

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Stop lying to yourself and to the ones you try with.
Whenever I hear try from someone it is pretty much a “No” in my book and if they show up, or come through then it is a pleasant surprise! Otherwise I don’t expect whatever they are trying” to do will actually come to fruition.

So how do we change our language to not incorporate such a weak word, that really doesn’t give us power and essentially is a nice way of saying “no”, aka not speaking our truth and essentially is an excuses or Lie?

1. If you really want to see how often you say the word “try“, keep a piece of paper with you and for a week (or maybe you will get the lesson in a day) every time you hear the word try and every time you hear yourself say try mark it down on the paper. One column for you and one column for hearing the word from others.

2. Now that you are aware of the word try, catch yourself either before you say it or right after you say it and replace it with a new word, such as “will” or “will not”. Yes you will be forced to make a decision here. Instead of “I will try to make the game tonight”, change to “I (will/will not) make it to the game tonight”. If you can’t quite make it there start with “As of right now it does not appear I will make the game, but if anything changes I will let you know”.  Essentially you are almost saying the same thing as try but this way is being more upfront that you are leaning towards the “will not” vs “will” show up. Granted if you can go straight to “will or will not” both you and the other person in the situation will know exactly where you stand.

Now you are not a horrible person if you say try but I would encourage you to test yourself as well as start building the intestinal fortitude to speak your truth. You don’t have to go to every event, and help everyone with everything. By taking try out of your vocabulary it forces you to make decision. When you make decisions you are no longer “wishy-washy”, you have strength and direction. Trust me, people’s feelings won’t be as hurt if you say you won’t do something vs if you say you will try and then don’t. You will be more loved and respected because people will know where you stand and you will know that for your self as well. There is strength in that knowledge.

Looking forward to enjoying a world that removes the word TRY and speaks their truth.

Now go out, take action and make things happen!

All the best,

Shay

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H.A.R.T. Balloon Release does not tolerate bullying!

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Do you know what is happening in your local community?

A great friend of mine introduced me to an event that was happening at the local State College, Sacramento State, and asked if I would like to attend. 

Sure, what are we supporting?

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This is what she sent me…

H.A.R.T. Balloon Release

As human beings, we subconsciously keep a record of wrongs that has been done to us in the past. The act of holding a grudge is a habit by human nature; unaware of the negative effect it can have in life.

The H.A.R.T Balloon Release event is purposed for the public to take a step toward becoming a community that will not tolerate bullying. Prior to the main event of releasing the H.A.R.T. balloons, the public is welcome to stop by the Have H.A.R.T. booth to write something he or she desires to let go of. Whether it is a specific name, a personal reflection, or a negative memory, the idea is to identify an unhealthy resentment and have a physical written form of it..

Those who participate will be asked to return to the booth at 3pm, tie their piece of paper to a balloon, and release it along with all the other attendees. Releasing the balloon symbolizes being free of the written issue and moving on in life without any burdens.

 

SOLD! I am sooo In!

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Not only am I about supporting an awesome group of young, purpose driven individuals who rally together for the good of human kind but to have an opportunity for me to also release things that burden me is right up my alley. 

 

So off we went to the Sac State campus, ready to write down our burdens, connect with like-minded individuals and bring awareness to those around us. There was probably 50+ balloons and over 100 people in attendance on the quad that afternoon.

 

Messages written, tied onto the balloons and ready for lift off!

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It was an amazing feeling to physically write down (getting it out of your head, onto paper) a fear, set back, something that is holding you back and/or whatever it is you are wanting to release, tie it to a balloon,  LET IT GO, and watch it float away. The feeling I had afterwards was incredibly a sense of calm, ease and by the time we got back in our car to head home I was full of life and energy…bouncing in the car to the music and being silly. It was a symbolic gesture that had an emotional and physical release for me and one “tool” I had forgotten was so powerful.

My hope for sharing this with you today is to open your eyes to other “tools” of assisting you to release things in your world that are no longer serving you. Whether it be a balloon release with the community just as we did (feel free to create your own group too!), writing it down on paper and burning it (remember safety first), or connecting with a coach/councilor/mentor/friend there are many options. Also there are many resources (we heard about this from www.Sacramento365.com ) locally that can inform you of events and ways to be involved in your community.

Wishing you all the best on this beautiful day and never stop working on you!

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Up, Up and Away!

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From 16 yr old Ashley Monroe: My Message to Everyone at My School: ‘You’re Beautiful’

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I recently saw this AMAZING post of a young woman who is making a difference in her school by simply using Sticky Notes and a wonderfully positive message…see orginal post here http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ashley-monroe/my-message-to-everyone-at_b_2563941.html

From Ashley Monroe.
16-year-old from Massachusetts

This is a picture of something I did at my school last year. I wrote out 1,986 sticky notes. Each said, “You’re beautiful,” and I stuck one to every locker in my entire school.
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It was almost unbearable to listen people put themselves down every day. They would say things like, “I’m ugly” or “No one likes me.” To me, that wasn’t the truth. For at least one day, I wanted everyone to know that someone thought they were beautiful.

It took me over 6 hours to write all of the notes, and an hour to stick them with the help of one other friend. It wasn’t my original plan to tell people that I had done it, but word got out after I had been called to the Dean’s office. They found me through the school’s video surveillance system.

After being sat down in the office and explaining everything that had happened, there was talk of a possible 3-day suspension from school. When I went back to my classroom, my teacher asked me what they said, and I told her. This is how the rest of the students found out. Throughout the entire day word of the possible suspension circulated, and a group of students came together and formed a petition. They passed the petition around school.

In the end, it had over 600 signatures, from both students AND faculty.

It amazed me that people would do that for me. For one day, I truly felt beautiful. And for one day, I managed to make every other kid in my school feel beautiful, as well.

A few days later, after the incident was not as new, a complete stranger approached me. What she said to me was shocking.

“That day, I was planning on killing myself. I had given up completely on society, but because of you I didn’t. You gave me hope. Thank you.”

What’s more amazing than that is the fact that today she has become one of my best friends.

Thank you Ashley for being a leader in your school and for changing the lives of many.
You are the epitome of a “Stand Up And Lead” Leader.
Much Love,
Shay

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Super Bowl XLVII in 2013

San Francisco 49er’s Football, Super Bowl, Friends & Fellowship

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Super Bowl XLVII in 2013

Super Bowl XLVII in 2013

For some, yesterday’s Super Bowl was a sad day. Many fans really would have wished the referees didn’t miss that call, would have thrown a flag or some other countless mishaps that occurred in the game. For me, I am not the biggest football fan. However yesterday was not about football for me. It was about spending time with my family, friends, meeting new people and having fellowship (I was hoping for some awesome Super Bowl commercials as well :-) ). The day started out with a great family breakfast, a trip to drop off some custom-made football cookies to my mom that my sis-in-law and I made the day before, then back to my brother’s house to prepare some food and await for the guests to arrive. Friends came in and out throughout the day bringing with them love, laughter, experiences, life updates and hopefully leaving a little better than when they showed up.

Sometimes we deserve to take a little time out to put ourselves in experiences that may be outside our comfort zone or in an activity that we may not “enjoy” however if we choose to get past the pain and/or annoyance of the event we can experience the benefit of the people you get to meet! This usually tends to be much better than expected. I know for me I had the opportunity to offer some of my knowledge and skill, open the door to take a look at a few books I have been reading and suggest to other which I feel will really assist them in their lives (The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
was one of those book recommendations). This is part of what I love to do, assisting people. So even though I didn’t know a whole lot of what was going on in the game, the names of the players and why the power outage occurred, I did learn from a few people who started to explain things to me, I did get to offer some guidance and suggestions and throughout the day…laughed and smiled a whole lot!

Thank you for an amazing Super bowl Sunday!

Light and Love,
Shay Wheat

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Just because you ask for help… doesn't mean you failed.

Just because you ask for help… doesn’t mean you failed.

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I recently had the opportunity to ask my network, my community, friends and loved ones for some help and assistance.  I was in a moment of emotional growth.

What exactly does that mean Shay?

Frankly…I was balling my eyes out!

Now in the past I would have just pulled out my journal or notebook paper, start writing and processing the feelings and emotions.  This time however it was different. I have been working very diligently on opening my heart more.  In this heart space there is no room for ego, drama, and negativity thus me reaching out to my community and asking for some extra love as I was hurting so deeply is no longer seen as a weakness for me, whereas before I thought I failed if I couldn’t figure it out on my own.  I no longer feel I must (nor do I desire) to sit in a room by myself and figure it out on my own. Now by connecting with your friends and community I’m not saying call ALL your friends up and start replaying the emotional story over and over but a few people are fine or you can simply ask (perhaps text, being that we are in an age of technology) something similar to this, “I don’t need to talk but if you could send me some good love and vibes right now I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you. :-)”. This worked well for me, one: it was getting late, two: I was crying hard and didn’t feel like explaining anything to anyone, three: my community is very loving and willing to help each other when we require it, no matter what, and four: I just required a little “love backup”, not anyone to “fix me” just loving support…that’s what I asked for and that is exactly what I got!

The responses I received were “Absolutely”, “Of Course”, “Done Deal”, and “My Pleasure”.

Just knowing that I don’t always have to be the strong one is very comforting. I can allow myself to “water my growth” (that’s what I call crying) and know that I have people who will send me love as I do my work on me and that I am not alone.

The important thing to remember is to reach out. If I didn’t reach out, no one would know to send me that extra burst of love when I really required it and I don’t feel I would have been able to heal as fast without it.

Remember we are all emotional human beings that have trials, tribulations and adversities. No one person is “strong enough” to handle it all on their own. That’s why and how we connect with the people we connect with, so we can help each other when the going gets tough.  Don’t let your pride and ego get in the way of your healing. Who knows, it might actually open a door for you that you may never would have thought of or make a connection with someone who will alter the course of your life for the better. However, for the potential for something like that to occur, you must let down your guard, be your true authentic self and open up that heart space.

Thank you to those in my community who answered my request for extra love that night.

I appreciate you!

Much love and gratitude,

Shay Wheat

 

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Thursday Notes – May 10, 2012

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” The hirer you want to climb, the more you need leadership. The greater the impact you want to make, a greater your influence needs to be.” – John Maxwell, Author of “The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership” I had the pleasure of mentoring 4 juniors at a local high school for a few months and this was their gift to me. Thank you ladies for making an impact and influencing my world.

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This is a great chance to show Leadership and Expand your influence.

Saturday Notes – April 7, 2012

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“Every day is another chance to serve. The opportunity to serve others is one of life’s greatest privileges.” – Holly Robinson Peete, Actress, Author, Activist, Philanthropist

 

This note came in from Doug R. Who found the note at The Sacramento Animal Hospital. Thanks for sending this in Doug and thank you for assisting in taking care of Sacramento’s sick animals!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
Love this one too! There are always opportunities for teachable moments, the question is… are you looking for them and are you taking advantage of them? I challenge you, by tomorrow, to take a look for a teaching moment. Feel free to email me, I would love to hear about your observation.
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