Posts tagged Inspiration

wpid-the-dar-129.jpeg

“Spend your life doing strange things with weird people.”

0

image

“Spend your life doing strange things with weird people.”

Let’s face it. There is no “normal”. Everyone is a bit weird every once and a while. Why not expand your horizons, try something new, go outside your comfort zone and design your life with experiences.

Your fellow “weird” friend,
Shay Wheat

Love StandUpAndLead and want to participate?

Post a note, take a picture, and e-mail your story to StandUpAndLeadNote@gmail.com. Each note goes up on the site for thousands of others to read and enjoy! :) Be one to make a change in the world… it starts with YOU!

Axtell Park 8th graders’ act of kindness warms hearts

0

Recent story was just brought to my attention.

A couple of 8th grade, young women, decided to make a difference in the lives of their fellow students at school.

Take a look at this video:

A Simple act of kindness gone viral.
The story was even picked up on a local news station.

http://www.ksfy.com/story/24208837/axtell-park-8th-graders-act-of-kindness?autostart=true

 

What can you do to pay it forward?

There is power in a sticky note.

Help me share their story.

 

Many Blessings,

Shay Wheat

Love StandUpAndLead and want to participate?

Post a note, take a picture, and e-mail your story to StandUpAndLeadNote@gmail.com. Each note goes up on the site for thousands of others to read and enjoy! :) Be one to make a change in the world… it starts with YOU!

fear is trusting in your own power

“Fear is Trusting in your own Power.” – Marianne Williamson

0
fear is trusting in your own power

photo by Clark Little

Wow. Anyone else get goosebumps after reading that quote? I sure did. It truly resonates with me. Personally I have been one who has fought with that. Fearing my own power. Being so incredibly powerful (not the power that would take over the world for my own selfish reasons) but a power that resides within and removes lack, worry and fear, when you think of something BAM! it is manifested. It already happens and I am amazed every time.  I know, like I know, like I know how the “Laws” work yet will it (trusting that power) consume me? Will it take me over? Will I loose all that I know as “Shay” and who she has been? Maybe. But what if the new Shay is so much better, so much more of service, can assist that many more people? Who am I to hold that back? How dare I hold that back? It also ties into the Phoenix which is a symbol that is sooooo me. So near and dear to my heart and is really who I am and am becoming. That symbol has also scared me ever since it showed up in a dream of mine that woke me up out of a dead sleep not too many years ago. (I will have to tell you more about the Phoenix another time but it is a really cool story!)

This quote also reminds me of Marianne’s other quote:

  • Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’ We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

 

I have even re-worked it, put it into more of an “I Am” statement, present tense form and this is what is on my bathroom mirror to read everyday.

“I am powerful beyond measure.

It is my light that empowers.

I am brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous.

I am a child of the Universe.

I play BIG to serve the world.

I am enlightened.

People feel secure around me.

I shine, just as children do.

I was born to make manifest the glory of God that is within me.

As I let my own light shine, I unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

I am liberated from my own fear.

My presence automatically liberates others.”

-Marianne Williamson re-written by Shay Wheat

 

The thing is we all have this immense power we possess and can tap into. The question is will we allow the fear to take over and leave the power within dormant or do we allow our own Phoenix to open its wings and be reborn to take flight once again. You are that powerful and to me it feels like it’s time that more and more of us trust in that fear of our power and let the light shine. It’s time to StandUpAndLead. Lead yourself and your presence will automatically liberate others to do the same.

I look forward to your comments and emails on times you have trusted your power, what you currently fear is holding you back and how you are taking action to move forward or looking for support to move forward. We are here to Shine and I am so excited to be on this journey with you. Let’s lock arms together and make a difference.

Love and Light,

Shay Wheat

Love StandUpAndLead and want to participate?

Post a note, take a picture, and e-mail your story to StandUpAndLeadNote@gmail.com. Each note goes up on the site for thousands of others to read and enjoy! :) Be one to make a change in the world… it starts with YOU!

I want to inspire people. I want someone to look at me and say "Because of you I didn't give up."

Plan B, Status Quo, No Matter What!

0
I want to inspire people. I want someone to look at me and say "Because of you I didn't give up."

I want to inspire people. I want someone to look at me and say “Because of you I didn’t give up.”

I am so proud of my friends!

Right now I have a number of friends who are going out into the world to make things happen. They are taking their lives into their own hands and not waiting around for what the Universe may drop into their lap.

No sirree-bob!

They are true definitions of people who StandUpAndLead in their own lives and in return it not only will manifest into something wonderful but the example they set for their kids, family, friends, co-workers, employees and people they touch is much further reaching.

They don’t settle for the Status Quo and in many cases are taking it upon themselves to change old structures that are no longer working. Looking at what doesn’t work, Masterminding, collaborating, calling in their connections and together creating a wave of change.

They are from all walks of life and backgrounds, from different states, foster homes, divorced homes and homes where parents have been happily married for 40+ years. No matter their circumstances and where they started they still have that internal drive and ambition, that “No MATTER WHAT”, can do attitude and knowing that “If it is meant to be, it is up to me”.

Granted as they travel down this path, as when we all do, it isn’t full of beautifully smelling roses. No we all get pricked by a rose thorn. The job doesn’t manifest the way we want, the speaking contract doesn’t go through, the invention direction & business plan takes a turn or business plan changes completely but that does not stop them.

Nope.

They keep moving forward. Onto Plan B.

They realize there are lots of options left. “How can I?”. They are the creators of their destiny, they dictate how they react in a situation and how they CHOOSE to move forward. For all they know it is a blessing in disguise to learn the lessons they had to learn in the moment to allow them to really appreciate and have the skills and background for the next adventure in their lives.

I am so Proud of them! They never give up. They keep moving forward. It is people like them who are the NEW leadership, the NEW movers and shakers, the NEW creators of a life worth living.

I am blessed to be surrounded by them. They inspire me. They inspired this writing today.

Thank you for being you, for making a difference in my life, a difference in the lives of others and because of that ripple effect who knows how many other lives will be touched and changed for the better forever. You are the people who will have others come up to you and say “Because of you, I didn’t give up.” If it has not happened yet…let me be the first!

Love You My Friends!

Shay Wheat

Love StandUpAndLead and want to participate?

Post a note, take a picture, and e-mail your story to StandUpAndLeadNote@gmail.com. Each note goes up on the site for thousands of others to read and enjoy! :) Be one to make a change in the world… it starts with YOU!

Face Your Fears

Face Your Fears…It’s the New Normal

0
Face Your Fears

Face Your Fears

“When I get scared, my 1st instinct is to run away or shut my eyes real tight or both at the same time. But if you run around with your eyes closed, not only do you bump into walls a lot, you miss out on seeing some pretty amazing stuff. So what I am learning is to face my fears head on. I don’t run anymore and I don’t cover my eyes.  I am embracing my fears as they are the seeds of a new life. They bring new joys and new dreams. When I look my fears straight in the eye…I see… My FUTURE.”

- Character Goldie Clemmons from TV show The New Normal

 

 

Love that quote!

Probably because I can relate to it, have experienced it and to this day work on facing my fears head on with my eyes open. It isn’t easy but the BEST experiences I have had thus far have come from doing things that scared me and were “outside my box”.

“I am embracing my fears as they are the seeds of a new life.” WOW! How powerful! Just imagine if you were to shift your thoughts to embrace your fears and see them as seeds of a new life. How would your life change? What if you did it for a month, a week or even a day? Can you imagine what experiences you would have? If you think of the old adage “Fear=False Evidence Appearing Real” then who’s to say that Fear can’t be turned into Following Experiences Appreciating Reality. Now that is my kind of FEAR!

So as you go through your day today and into tomorrow, face your FEARs, follow those experiences and appreciate the reality of those seeds of a new life that you are creating for yourself. You Deserve it! Now go make it happen! I will see you at the top and look forward to swapping our NEW FEAR stories because that deserves to be the New Normal.

 

Your fellow NEW FEAR Normal friend,

Shay Wheat

 

Love StandUpAndLead and want to participate?

Post a note, take a picture, and e-mail your story to StandUpAndLeadNote@gmail.com. Each note goes up on the site for thousands of others to read and enjoy! :) Be one to make a change in the world… it starts with YOU!

Friends are in it for the long haul

Return to Happiness: Great Friends are in it for the Long Haul

0
Today’s post is a guest post from a dear friend of mine Ryan John Phillips, creator of Return To Happiness. I had the pleasure of meeting Ryan at the beginning of this year and he is one of those friends that when you meet it feels like you have known them forever! Please take a look at the great things Ryan is doing in the world and enjoy his guest post today.
Friends are in it for the long haul

Friends are in it for the long haul

What would we do without “true” friends in our lives? I know my friends and family make up my world. What is a true friend? A true friend is a person who is in your life, that loves you unconditionally with no judgement. We all go through experiences and tests in life and it’s the people that stay by your side (no matter what) that are to be cherished and held in the highest ranks of friendship. Being a true friend back is also a very important factor in the growth of any relationship. It’s also very important not to dump too many of your issues onto friends for the benefit of their own well being. There’s such a thing as energy “givers” and “takers.” You know the people that drain you sometimes because their paradigms are stuck in negative thought patters. Our duty as friends is to help elevate, and inspire to bring out the best in others. Our own actions is what immediately draws people to us in the first place and they don’t always have to come through the words we speak, instead by the deeds we perform. I’ve been guilty in my past of flash judgments and putting down others, but ask yourself what good that does for you and the other person? How does it make your body and mind feel? Not very good in most cases and it really serves no purpose either as everything is reciprocated back through the law of compensation. My idealism’s have changed a lot in my thirties on what the true meaning of this word we call friendship is. I just do my best to be present and give good advice. When we sow good deeds to others in the form of being a great friend the reward is one that can’t be matched by anything. It’s a great to have like beings laughing joyously and also to share tears as well. That’s what makes true friendship real and so worth while. I’m sure you have one friend that sticks out in mind that is your rock. Do both of yourselves a favor today and tell he or she how much you care about them and make today one of joy, bliss and love.

God Bless RJP.
Connect with Ryan John Phillips

Love StandUpAndLead and want to participate?

Post a note, take a picture, and e-mail your story to StandUpAndLeadNote@gmail.com. Each note goes up on the site for thousands of others to read and enjoy! :) Be one to make a change in the world… it starts with YOU!

excuses are well planned lies

Don’t Try…Do!

0

The theme with a few of my clients recently seemed to stem around “try” and this is my return thought:

If you are taking action, even a little bit, everyday, you are getting closer and closer to your dreams. So in my book that is more than trying, that is doing. Give yourself credit for doing, not trying.

yoda try not do or do not there is no try
To quote Yoda “NO! Try Not! Do or Do Not, There is no try.”

 

 

Maybe it is just me but I seem to have an adverse reaction when I hear the word Try.  I will try and make it. I heard someone tried something like that and they failed. I try and I try and I try….

Ah! Stop Trying and start Doing!

Try isn’t a very empowering word is it? It feels weak and perhaps just a nice way of saying NO or an “easy” way to have an excuse. What is an excuse?
I recently saw this picture that sums up the physical reaction I feel.

excuses are well planned lies

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Stop lying to yourself and to the ones you try with.
Whenever I hear try from someone it is pretty much a “No” in my book and if they show up, or come through then it is a pleasant surprise! Otherwise I don’t expect whatever they are trying” to do will actually come to fruition.

So how do we change our language to not incorporate such a weak word, that really doesn’t give us power and essentially is a nice way of saying “no”, aka not speaking our truth and essentially is an excuses or Lie?

1. If you really want to see how often you say the word “try“, keep a piece of paper with you and for a week (or maybe you will get the lesson in a day) every time you hear the word try and every time you hear yourself say try mark it down on the paper. One column for you and one column for hearing the word from others.

2. Now that you are aware of the word try, catch yourself either before you say it or right after you say it and replace it with a new word, such as “will” or “will not”. Yes you will be forced to make a decision here. Instead of “I will try to make the game tonight”, change to “I (will/will not) make it to the game tonight”. If you can’t quite make it there start with “As of right now it does not appear I will make the game, but if anything changes I will let you know”.  Essentially you are almost saying the same thing as try but this way is being more upfront that you are leaning towards the “will not” vs “will” show up. Granted if you can go straight to “will or will not” both you and the other person in the situation will know exactly where you stand.

Now you are not a horrible person if you say try but I would encourage you to test yourself as well as start building the intestinal fortitude to speak your truth. You don’t have to go to every event, and help everyone with everything. By taking try out of your vocabulary it forces you to make decision. When you make decisions you are no longer “wishy-washy”, you have strength and direction. Trust me, people’s feelings won’t be as hurt if you say you won’t do something vs if you say you will try and then don’t. You will be more loved and respected because people will know where you stand and you will know that for your self as well. There is strength in that knowledge.

Looking forward to enjoying a world that removes the word TRY and speaks their truth.

Now go out, take action and make things happen!

All the best,

Shay

Love StandUpAndLead and want to participate?

Post a note, take a picture, and e-mail your story to StandUpAndLeadNote@gmail.com. Each note goes up on the site for thousands of others to read and enjoy! :) Be one to make a change in the world… it starts with YOU!

r-YOUREBEAUTIFUL-large570

From 16 yr old Ashley Monroe: My Message to Everyone at My School: ‘You’re Beautiful’

1

I recently saw this AMAZING post of a young woman who is making a difference in her school by simply using Sticky Notes and a wonderfully positive message…see orginal post here http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ashley-monroe/my-message-to-everyone-at_b_2563941.html

From Ashley Monroe.
16-year-old from Massachusetts

This is a picture of something I did at my school last year. I wrote out 1,986 sticky notes. Each said, “You’re beautiful,” and I stuck one to every locker in my entire school.
r-YOUREBEAUTIFUL-large570

It was almost unbearable to listen people put themselves down every day. They would say things like, “I’m ugly” or “No one likes me.” To me, that wasn’t the truth. For at least one day, I wanted everyone to know that someone thought they were beautiful.

It took me over 6 hours to write all of the notes, and an hour to stick them with the help of one other friend. It wasn’t my original plan to tell people that I had done it, but word got out after I had been called to the Dean’s office. They found me through the school’s video surveillance system.

After being sat down in the office and explaining everything that had happened, there was talk of a possible 3-day suspension from school. When I went back to my classroom, my teacher asked me what they said, and I told her. This is how the rest of the students found out. Throughout the entire day word of the possible suspension circulated, and a group of students came together and formed a petition. They passed the petition around school.

In the end, it had over 600 signatures, from both students AND faculty.

It amazed me that people would do that for me. For one day, I truly felt beautiful. And for one day, I managed to make every other kid in my school feel beautiful, as well.

A few days later, after the incident was not as new, a complete stranger approached me. What she said to me was shocking.

“That day, I was planning on killing myself. I had given up completely on society, but because of you I didn’t. You gave me hope. Thank you.”

What’s more amazing than that is the fact that today she has become one of my best friends.

Thank you Ashley for being a leader in your school and for changing the lives of many.
You are the epitome of a “Stand Up And Lead” Leader.
Much Love,
Shay

Love StandUpAndLead and want to participate?

Post a note, take a picture, and e-mail your story to StandUpAndLeadNote@gmail.com. Each note goes up on the site for thousands of others to read and enjoy! :) Be one to make a change in the world… it starts with YOU!

Super Bowl XLVII in 2013

San Francisco 49er’s Football, Super Bowl, Friends & Fellowship

0

Super Bowl XLVII in 2013

Super Bowl XLVII in 2013

For some, yesterday’s Super Bowl was a sad day. Many fans really would have wished the referees didn’t miss that call, would have thrown a flag or some other countless mishaps that occurred in the game. For me, I am not the biggest football fan. However yesterday was not about football for me. It was about spending time with my family, friends, meeting new people and having fellowship (I was hoping for some awesome Super Bowl commercials as well :-) ). The day started out with a great family breakfast, a trip to drop off some custom-made football cookies to my mom that my sis-in-law and I made the day before, then back to my brother’s house to prepare some food and await for the guests to arrive. Friends came in and out throughout the day bringing with them love, laughter, experiences, life updates and hopefully leaving a little better than when they showed up.

Sometimes we deserve to take a little time out to put ourselves in experiences that may be outside our comfort zone or in an activity that we may not “enjoy” however if we choose to get past the pain and/or annoyance of the event we can experience the benefit of the people you get to meet! This usually tends to be much better than expected. I know for me I had the opportunity to offer some of my knowledge and skill, open the door to take a look at a few books I have been reading and suggest to other which I feel will really assist them in their lives (The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
was one of those book recommendations). This is part of what I love to do, assisting people. So even though I didn’t know a whole lot of what was going on in the game, the names of the players and why the power outage occurred, I did learn from a few people who started to explain things to me, I did get to offer some guidance and suggestions and throughout the day…laughed and smiled a whole lot!

Thank you for an amazing Super bowl Sunday!

Light and Love,
Shay Wheat

Love StandUpAndLead and want to participate?

Post a note, take a picture, and e-mail your story to StandUpAndLeadNote@gmail.com. Each note goes up on the site for thousands of others to read and enjoy! :) Be one to make a change in the world… it starts with YOU!

Just because you ask for help… doesn't mean you failed.

Just because you ask for help… doesn’t mean you failed.

0

I recently had the opportunity to ask my network, my community, friends and loved ones for some help and assistance.  I was in a moment of emotional growth.

What exactly does that mean Shay?

Frankly…I was balling my eyes out!

Now in the past I would have just pulled out my journal or notebook paper, start writing and processing the feelings and emotions.  This time however it was different. I have been working very diligently on opening my heart more.  In this heart space there is no room for ego, drama, and negativity thus me reaching out to my community and asking for some extra love as I was hurting so deeply is no longer seen as a weakness for me, whereas before I thought I failed if I couldn’t figure it out on my own.  I no longer feel I must (nor do I desire) to sit in a room by myself and figure it out on my own. Now by connecting with your friends and community I’m not saying call ALL your friends up and start replaying the emotional story over and over but a few people are fine or you can simply ask (perhaps text, being that we are in an age of technology) something similar to this, “I don’t need to talk but if you could send me some good love and vibes right now I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you. :-)”. This worked well for me, one: it was getting late, two: I was crying hard and didn’t feel like explaining anything to anyone, three: my community is very loving and willing to help each other when we require it, no matter what, and four: I just required a little “love backup”, not anyone to “fix me” just loving support…that’s what I asked for and that is exactly what I got!

The responses I received were “Absolutely”, “Of Course”, “Done Deal”, and “My Pleasure”.

Just knowing that I don’t always have to be the strong one is very comforting. I can allow myself to “water my growth” (that’s what I call crying) and know that I have people who will send me love as I do my work on me and that I am not alone.

The important thing to remember is to reach out. If I didn’t reach out, no one would know to send me that extra burst of love when I really required it and I don’t feel I would have been able to heal as fast without it.

Remember we are all emotional human beings that have trials, tribulations and adversities. No one person is “strong enough” to handle it all on their own. That’s why and how we connect with the people we connect with, so we can help each other when the going gets tough.  Don’t let your pride and ego get in the way of your healing. Who knows, it might actually open a door for you that you may never would have thought of or make a connection with someone who will alter the course of your life for the better. However, for the potential for something like that to occur, you must let down your guard, be your true authentic self and open up that heart space.

Thank you to those in my community who answered my request for extra love that night.

I appreciate you!

Much love and gratitude,

Shay Wheat

 

Love StandUpAndLead and want to participate?

Post a note, take a picture, and e-mail your story to StandUpAndLeadNote@gmail.com. Each note goes up on the site for thousands of others to read and enjoy! :) Be one to make a change in the world… it starts with YOU!

Go to Top