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Vision so clear, fears become irrelevant

Make Your Vision So Clear That Your Fears Become Irrelevant

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Vision so clear, fears become irrelevant

Make Your Vision So Clear That Your Fears Become Irrelevant

I recently attended an event by Brendon Burchard called “High Performance Academy”.

The above statement so rings true for me after that event. It was an opportunity for me to re-engage my life and business and get back in touch with my vision and dreams. When you have no vision and no goal, how do you know what you are aiming for? How do you take the next best step in turning your dreams into reality? How do you even remember what your dreams are if you don’t have a vision?

It is so easy to get lost in the everyday routine of life and lose sight of what drives you, what you want to accomplish and what things on your Live List you want to see and do before you kick the bucket. It is why I love attending events. They allow me to re-engage and help keep me moving forward. Events also allow me to connect with other like-minded individuals who are out there making a difference in the world. That alone is INSPIRING and depending on someone else’s vision and how big it is, that might just kick you in the booty to step up your game as well.

After all when the vision is clear, no fear will stop you from achieving it.

Action Step: grab a pen and paper and jot down your vision. Dream again. Make it so clear that you can see it and practically touch it, it is so real.
Then feel free to comment below. You never know, your vision may just be the catalyst for another to step up their game.

 

Many blessings,

Shay

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Axtell Park 8th graders’ act of kindness warms hearts

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Recent story was just brought to my attention.

A couple of 8th grade, young women, decided to make a difference in the lives of their fellow students at school.

Take a look at this video:

A Simple act of kindness gone viral.
The story was even picked up on a local news station.

http://www.ksfy.com/story/24208837/axtell-park-8th-graders-act-of-kindness?autostart=true

 

What can you do to pay it forward?

There is power in a sticky note.

Help me share their story.

 

Many Blessings,

Shay Wheat

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You Will never find what you have...until you "let go" of what you had.

Never Find it until you let it go

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You Will never find what you have...until you "let go" of what you had. “You will never find what you have…until you “Let Go” of what you had.”

Stuck in the Past? Unable to let go of what was in order to participate in the here and now? It is called Being in the Moment. The past is history and tomorrow is a mystery, all we have is the moment and that is why they call it Present.

That is all we ever really have, the present moment. The past gives us some background knowledge, it gives us stepping-stones, it gives us possible clues in order to navigate the present and future. However, the past does not dictate how we choose to move forward in the present moment. The past is what we remember, our perception of events and outcomes.

Key word is Perception.

How we “saw” things transpire. Now that perception was based on knowledge you had at that point in time in your life. The thing is, you are constantly learning and growing (whether you like it or not :-) Meaning that you could be in the same situation once again and your 1st thought will be to pull upon past experiences to give you background on how to move forward. However what if you were to look at this experience again with new eyes? How might things change? How will letting go of the past, what you had, serve you now in the present moment? What new tools and experiences have you learned for possible new outcomes?

Funny thing about the past, it can never be changed. The only thing that can change is your perspective and how you choose to move forward. Will you hold onto the past and recreate the same experiences over and over expecting different results? Will you acknowledge the past, recognize it for the lesson it taught you and choose different, choose another route moving forward? Will you completely abandon it and choose to look at each new experience with fresh eyes and every time the past creeps back up say “Thank you but I choose not to view things from a past perspective”? There is no right or wrong in these questions and your choice in choosing per experience. My intention is to bring it to your awareness and remind you that you are in choice.

Many times we get stuck and are unable to move forward because we choose to believe things will always stay the same because of our past experiences. We choose not to Let Go and we will continue to have opportunities arise to learn the same lesson over and over until we get it.  If this is you, may I suggest stepping back, taking a breath and asking for a new option, a new possibility to present itself. Heck if you don’t like that outcome you can always go back to what you were doing (however I have a feeling you weren’t too happy with that outcome anyway. Right?).

Alternatively, when we do get an opportunity to let go it allows us to free up space for something new or perhaps something that has always been there but we were unable to see because we were focused elsewhere. You have the tools, knowledge, strength and skill within you to find the answers and things you seek. Unfortunately, many of us have also learned and adopted other thoughts that cause doubt, fear and lack to creep into our mindset and do their best to keep us there.

My hope is that today will assist you in taking a moment to step back and look at things in your world from a different perspective, a different view-point, and at the very least taking a moment to breathe before doing what you have always done in the past.

Otherwise, “You will never find what you have…until you “Let Go” of what you had.”

Many Blessings & Prosperous Regards,

Shay

 

p.s. A recent trip to Carmel brought me a similar perspective in this Shayism: Waves effect on the Past, Present and Future

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fear is trusting in your own power

“Fear is Trusting in your own Power.” – Marianne Williamson

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fear is trusting in your own power

photo by Clark Little

Wow. Anyone else get goosebumps after reading that quote? I sure did. It truly resonates with me. Personally I have been one who has fought with that. Fearing my own power. Being so incredibly powerful (not the power that would take over the world for my own selfish reasons) but a power that resides within and removes lack, worry and fear, when you think of something BAM! it is manifested. It already happens and I am amazed every time.  I know, like I know, like I know how the “Laws” work yet will it (trusting that power) consume me? Will it take me over? Will I loose all that I know as “Shay” and who she has been? Maybe. But what if the new Shay is so much better, so much more of service, can assist that many more people? Who am I to hold that back? How dare I hold that back? It also ties into the Phoenix which is a symbol that is sooooo me. So near and dear to my heart and is really who I am and am becoming. That symbol has also scared me ever since it showed up in a dream of mine that woke me up out of a dead sleep not too many years ago. (I will have to tell you more about the Phoenix another time but it is a really cool story!)

This quote also reminds me of Marianne’s other quote:

  • Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’ We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

 

I have even re-worked it, put it into more of an “I Am” statement, present tense form and this is what is on my bathroom mirror to read everyday.

“I am powerful beyond measure.

It is my light that empowers.

I am brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous.

I am a child of the Universe.

I play BIG to serve the world.

I am enlightened.

People feel secure around me.

I shine, just as children do.

I was born to make manifest the glory of God that is within me.

As I let my own light shine, I unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

I am liberated from my own fear.

My presence automatically liberates others.”

-Marianne Williamson re-written by Shay Wheat

 

The thing is we all have this immense power we possess and can tap into. The question is will we allow the fear to take over and leave the power within dormant or do we allow our own Phoenix to open its wings and be reborn to take flight once again. You are that powerful and to me it feels like it’s time that more and more of us trust in that fear of our power and let the light shine. It’s time to StandUpAndLead. Lead yourself and your presence will automatically liberate others to do the same.

I look forward to your comments and emails on times you have trusted your power, what you currently fear is holding you back and how you are taking action to move forward or looking for support to move forward. We are here to Shine and I am so excited to be on this journey with you. Let’s lock arms together and make a difference.

Love and Light,

Shay Wheat

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I want to inspire people. I want someone to look at me and say "Because of you I didn't give up."

Plan B, Status Quo, No Matter What!

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I want to inspire people. I want someone to look at me and say "Because of you I didn't give up."

I want to inspire people. I want someone to look at me and say “Because of you I didn’t give up.”

I am so proud of my friends!

Right now I have a number of friends who are going out into the world to make things happen. They are taking their lives into their own hands and not waiting around for what the Universe may drop into their lap.

No sirree-bob!

They are true definitions of people who StandUpAndLead in their own lives and in return it not only will manifest into something wonderful but the example they set for their kids, family, friends, co-workers, employees and people they touch is much further reaching.

They don’t settle for the Status Quo and in many cases are taking it upon themselves to change old structures that are no longer working. Looking at what doesn’t work, Masterminding, collaborating, calling in their connections and together creating a wave of change.

They are from all walks of life and backgrounds, from different states, foster homes, divorced homes and homes where parents have been happily married for 40+ years. No matter their circumstances and where they started they still have that internal drive and ambition, that “No MATTER WHAT”, can do attitude and knowing that “If it is meant to be, it is up to me”.

Granted as they travel down this path, as when we all do, it isn’t full of beautifully smelling roses. No we all get pricked by a rose thorn. The job doesn’t manifest the way we want, the speaking contract doesn’t go through, the invention direction & business plan takes a turn or business plan changes completely but that does not stop them.

Nope.

They keep moving forward. Onto Plan B.

They realize there are lots of options left. “How can I?”. They are the creators of their destiny, they dictate how they react in a situation and how they CHOOSE to move forward. For all they know it is a blessing in disguise to learn the lessons they had to learn in the moment to allow them to really appreciate and have the skills and background for the next adventure in their lives.

I am so Proud of them! They never give up. They keep moving forward. It is people like them who are the NEW leadership, the NEW movers and shakers, the NEW creators of a life worth living.

I am blessed to be surrounded by them. They inspire me. They inspired this writing today.

Thank you for being you, for making a difference in my life, a difference in the lives of others and because of that ripple effect who knows how many other lives will be touched and changed for the better forever. You are the people who will have others come up to you and say “Because of you, I didn’t give up.” If it has not happened yet…let me be the first!

Love You My Friends!

Shay Wheat

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Dreams don't come true because a person does something well once and a while...Dreams come true when someone performs with excellence day after day. -John Maxwell

How Dreams Come True

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Dreams don't come true because a person does something well once and a while...Dreams come true when someone performs with excellence day after day. -John Maxwell

Dreams don’t come true because a person does something well once and a while…Dreams come true when someone performs with excellence day after day. -John Maxwell

Sticky Note of the Day: “Dreams don’t come true because a person does something well once and a while…Dreams come true when someone performs with excellence day after day.” -John Maxwell

 

So really John, what you are saying is doing something consistently, everyday, no matter how small, is better than something big every now and then. Guess the way I look at it is “eat an apple a day vs 30 apples in one day!” (Whew that would be a TON of apples if you did it all in one day). Okay I get it.

Mr. Maxwell also speaks about how he makes sure he does 5 things, just 5 everyday. Rain or shine, holidays, birthdays, weekends, everyday, 5 things to assist him in his goals, dreams, aspirations and development of himself and his leadership. Would you like to know what he does?

 

 

John Maxwell’s Rule of 5:

1. Reads

2. Files his ideas

3. Asks Questions

4. Thinks

5. Writes

That’s it. They aren’t huge. They aren’t hard but over time it adds up…BIG TIME! He has been doing this for years and it has become a habit. He is someone who performs with excellence day after day in these 5 key areas. After knowing this it makes sense how to date he has written more than 60 books and has been featured multiple times in SUCCESS Magazine, not to mention all of his speaking engagements and training new trainers.

How does this fit into your world? What 5 things or even 1, 2, 3 things would you commit to do, everyday if it meant you could turn your dreams into reality? Are your dreams worth it? It reminds me of the old saying “It you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” These 5 things for John Maxwell are part of his plan to achieve what he desires in this lifetime.

Can’t think of anything at the moment? Use John’s 5 things. It works, just tailor it to you in terms of what to read, filing ideas/quotes/thoughts/messages/etc. Make it your own, do it consistently and in the direction of your dreams then watch them become reality.

Easy to do, easy not to do. How bad do you want it?

 

Dream Big my friends,

Shay

 

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Face Your Fears

Face Your Fears…It’s the New Normal

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Face Your Fears

Face Your Fears

“When I get scared, my 1st instinct is to run away or shut my eyes real tight or both at the same time. But if you run around with your eyes closed, not only do you bump into walls a lot, you miss out on seeing some pretty amazing stuff. So what I am learning is to face my fears head on. I don’t run anymore and I don’t cover my eyes.  I am embracing my fears as they are the seeds of a new life. They bring new joys and new dreams. When I look my fears straight in the eye…I see… My FUTURE.”

- Character Goldie Clemmons from TV show The New Normal

 

 

Love that quote!

Probably because I can relate to it, have experienced it and to this day work on facing my fears head on with my eyes open. It isn’t easy but the BEST experiences I have had thus far have come from doing things that scared me and were “outside my box”.

“I am embracing my fears as they are the seeds of a new life.” WOW! How powerful! Just imagine if you were to shift your thoughts to embrace your fears and see them as seeds of a new life. How would your life change? What if you did it for a month, a week or even a day? Can you imagine what experiences you would have? If you think of the old adage “Fear=False Evidence Appearing Real” then who’s to say that Fear can’t be turned into Following Experiences Appreciating Reality. Now that is my kind of FEAR!

So as you go through your day today and into tomorrow, face your FEARs, follow those experiences and appreciate the reality of those seeds of a new life that you are creating for yourself. You Deserve it! Now go make it happen! I will see you at the top and look forward to swapping our NEW FEAR stories because that deserves to be the New Normal.

 

Your fellow NEW FEAR Normal friend,

Shay Wheat

 

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Friends are in it for the long haul

Return to Happiness: Great Friends are in it for the Long Haul

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Today’s post is a guest post from a dear friend of mine Ryan John Phillips, creator of Return To Happiness. I had the pleasure of meeting Ryan at the beginning of this year and he is one of those friends that when you meet it feels like you have known them forever! Please take a look at the great things Ryan is doing in the world and enjoy his guest post today.
Friends are in it for the long haul

Friends are in it for the long haul

What would we do without “true” friends in our lives? I know my friends and family make up my world. What is a true friend? A true friend is a person who is in your life, that loves you unconditionally with no judgement. We all go through experiences and tests in life and it’s the people that stay by your side (no matter what) that are to be cherished and held in the highest ranks of friendship. Being a true friend back is also a very important factor in the growth of any relationship. It’s also very important not to dump too many of your issues onto friends for the benefit of their own well being. There’s such a thing as energy “givers” and “takers.” You know the people that drain you sometimes because their paradigms are stuck in negative thought patters. Our duty as friends is to help elevate, and inspire to bring out the best in others. Our own actions is what immediately draws people to us in the first place and they don’t always have to come through the words we speak, instead by the deeds we perform. I’ve been guilty in my past of flash judgments and putting down others, but ask yourself what good that does for you and the other person? How does it make your body and mind feel? Not very good in most cases and it really serves no purpose either as everything is reciprocated back through the law of compensation. My idealism’s have changed a lot in my thirties on what the true meaning of this word we call friendship is. I just do my best to be present and give good advice. When we sow good deeds to others in the form of being a great friend the reward is one that can’t be matched by anything. It’s a great to have like beings laughing joyously and also to share tears as well. That’s what makes true friendship real and so worth while. I’m sure you have one friend that sticks out in mind that is your rock. Do both of yourselves a favor today and tell he or she how much you care about them and make today one of joy, bliss and love.

God Bless RJP.
Connect with Ryan John Phillips

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Find out what you do well then find a way to do that for the rest of your life.

What do you do well?

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Find out what you do well then find a way to do that for the rest of your life. Sticky note for today:

 Find out what you do WELL then find a way to do that for the rest of your life.

 

Yesterday I had an amazing meeting with 2 leaders making a difference in our school system. One was telling a story about a young woman, from a tough neighborhood and school that had been receiving D’s and F’s on her report card in high school. Their organization had gone in with a health program and the on-site coordinator and this young woman really connected on a mentor-mentee basis. It was in that class that the student received A’s across the board. This program was assisting students to find out what they did well and encouraged them to go after their dreams. This student ended up getting a scholarship after a panel interview to go to culinary school.

How POWERFUL is that!

What our school system deemed as a child who was below average in school found something, was encouraged and guided toward the thing that she was passionate about and she went after it!

What do you do well? What are you passionate about? What would you do if time and money were no object…what would you be doing tomorrow? What is your hobby? What would you be doing the rest of your life if you got paid for it or not? Whatever that is (and you may deserve to practice “dreaming” again) do it, start it, pick it back up again, do it in your free time, in your spare time and who knows…it may just become your new profession.

Dream BIG my friends!

Shay

 

p.s. Take a look at HealthCorps and the wonderful things they are doing!
https://healthcorps.org/

 

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excuses are well planned lies

Don’t Try…Do!

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The theme with a few of my clients recently seemed to stem around “try” and this is my return thought:

If you are taking action, even a little bit, everyday, you are getting closer and closer to your dreams. So in my book that is more than trying, that is doing. Give yourself credit for doing, not trying.

yoda try not do or do not there is no try
To quote Yoda “NO! Try Not! Do or Do Not, There is no try.”

 

 

Maybe it is just me but I seem to have an adverse reaction when I hear the word Try.  I will try and make it. I heard someone tried something like that and they failed. I try and I try and I try….

Ah! Stop Trying and start Doing!

Try isn’t a very empowering word is it? It feels weak and perhaps just a nice way of saying NO or an “easy” way to have an excuse. What is an excuse?
I recently saw this picture that sums up the physical reaction I feel.

excuses are well planned lies

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Stop lying to yourself and to the ones you try with.
Whenever I hear try from someone it is pretty much a “No” in my book and if they show up, or come through then it is a pleasant surprise! Otherwise I don’t expect whatever they are trying” to do will actually come to fruition.

So how do we change our language to not incorporate such a weak word, that really doesn’t give us power and essentially is a nice way of saying “no”, aka not speaking our truth and essentially is an excuses or Lie?

1. If you really want to see how often you say the word “try“, keep a piece of paper with you and for a week (or maybe you will get the lesson in a day) every time you hear the word try and every time you hear yourself say try mark it down on the paper. One column for you and one column for hearing the word from others.

2. Now that you are aware of the word try, catch yourself either before you say it or right after you say it and replace it with a new word, such as “will” or “will not”. Yes you will be forced to make a decision here. Instead of “I will try to make the game tonight”, change to “I (will/will not) make it to the game tonight”. If you can’t quite make it there start with “As of right now it does not appear I will make the game, but if anything changes I will let you know”.  Essentially you are almost saying the same thing as try but this way is being more upfront that you are leaning towards the “will not” vs “will” show up. Granted if you can go straight to “will or will not” both you and the other person in the situation will know exactly where you stand.

Now you are not a horrible person if you say try but I would encourage you to test yourself as well as start building the intestinal fortitude to speak your truth. You don’t have to go to every event, and help everyone with everything. By taking try out of your vocabulary it forces you to make decision. When you make decisions you are no longer “wishy-washy”, you have strength and direction. Trust me, people’s feelings won’t be as hurt if you say you won’t do something vs if you say you will try and then don’t. You will be more loved and respected because people will know where you stand and you will know that for your self as well. There is strength in that knowledge.

Looking forward to enjoying a world that removes the word TRY and speaks their truth.

Now go out, take action and make things happen!

All the best,

Shay

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