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i am in the moment most when i am rendering service

Being in “The Moment”

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i am in the moment most when i am rendering service This morning I had the pleasure of speaking with my good friend, Ryan John Phillips, creator of the “Return to Happiness” documentary, book and movement. We haven’t spoken for a few days so in our “catching up” Ryan said the following… “You know Shay, I am in the moment most, when I am rendering service.” After he said it we both had a “Whoa” feeling. That statement just seemed to resonate at such a high level that it physically made me sit back in my chair with an immediate reply of “Wow Ryan, that is good.”

So what does it mean to be “in the moment”? For me, it is being aware and conscious of your self and your surroundings. To be grounded in the here and NOW, not worrying about the future or the past, and taking a look at all the greatness that surrounds you. It is a feeling of calmness (vs the chaos most may be used to). Too many times we get caught up in the “what ifs” in life. What if I don’t get the promotion, what if I miss my flight, what if I _______ (fill in the blank). It is amazing how that blank is usually filled with something negative. Not too often do I hear “What if I change someones life for the better today”.

Why? Sadly we are programmed more negatively than positively with all the media, news, distractions, etc in the world to keep us in fear and continuing the thoughts of lack. That is one of the huge driving factors of starting StandUpAndLead. It is to assist in being in the moment, shifting consciousness and awareness to see the good that surrounds us vs looking at the negative. There will always be both, but life is a TON more fun to live in a positive space vs a negative one (if you find yourself in a negative space, try positive for a day…if you don’t like it you can always go back :-) ).

What being of service and being in the moment allows you to do is start that shift of turning around the negative “what ifs” in life to seeing the good in the world, how you can help and as the great Zig Ziglar has always said “If you help enough people get what they want, you will get what you want.” By being in the moment, you are aware of those opportunities to be of service, assist others and through the Law of Reciprocity more good will come to you in greater abundance.

Enjoy “The Moment”.

Shay

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Make Things Happen!

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Make things happen note There comes a time when you have the gut, intuition feeling of

“It’s time to Make Things Happen!”

No more sliding through life, no more slouching around, no more “waiting”. 

It’s Go Time!

That time is NOW!

It reminds me of the saying “If your ship doesn’t come out to you, swim out to it.”

Yep, that is where we are now. I feel it. Do you?

I have been interacting with more and more people lately who are also feeling this driving force to take action, to change what they have been doing, to strive after their passions and just “KNOW” that all will fall into place. Granted it is scary, it is outside our comfort zones but it “feels” right.

Last year was a Year of Experiences for me, this year is a Year of Prosperous Opportunity. It is amazing how the simple act of setting an intention, sharing it with those around you, those of influence and affluence, will end up in an amazing snowball effect that you could not have possibly imagined. However it will never happen if you don’t start to take some action. MAKE THINGS HAPPEN! It’s time. There is no better time than right now to get that snowball rolling. Just pick up some snow, be at the top of a hill, create a ball, then get it started on its path. Now that you can visualize that in your minds eye, how does that relate to the “real world” right?

snowballSnowball-That’s your idea, your intention, your thoughts and dreams, your passion. Resting there in your hands. An inanimate object with no force acting upon it currently. Just sitting there for you to admire and look upon.

Hill-The launch pad, the starting place. It’s where you stand, right here, right now.

Snow ballStart the rolling process- Taking your idea, your passion, your intention and putting it into play in the world. Allow it to interact with others. Share it with those around you, share your passion, share your vision, explain it so they see what you see so they can share it with those around them & explain it as you have done.

That is Making Things Happen.

I’m not saying you must roll your snowball down the hill today but I am urging you to pick up some snow, hold it in your hand, grab some more snow and start to build your snowball.

I am excited to hear about where you are in the process of Making Things Happen.

Enjoy the Ride!

Shay

 

 

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The 3Rs: Recharge, Relax and Reflect

The 3 R’s: Recharge – Relax – Reflect

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The 3Rs: Recharge, Relax and Reflect

The 3Rs: Recharge, Relax and Reflect

Ah Yes, The 3Rs….no not Reduce, Reuse and Recycle (even though that is a good one too) but my 3Rs are:

Recharge
Relax
Reflect

 

Today I had someone ask me if I had something fun and exciting happening this beautiful Sunday. My answer…”Today is a lazy Sunday, been busy this past month, time for some down time. Recharge, Relax, Reflect.” It was totally in the moment but it rang so true that I thought I would share it with you.

But first you need a beautiful picture to go with the mood of the words right? This is the view from my friend’s place up in Canada. How wonderful to wake up to this landscape! A place that one can truly Recharge – Relax – Reflect. Although it isn’t necessary to be in a place like this to still incorporate the 3Rs into your world.

What does it mean to:
Recharge?
Restore an electric charge by connecting to a device that draws power from another source.

Relax?
Make or become less tense or anxious. Rest or engage in an enjoyable activity so as to become less tired or anxious.

Reflect?
(of a surface or body) Throw back (heat, light, or sound) without absorbing it.
Great, so now that we know the definitions, how do we incorporate it into our lives?
Many of us are “non-stop” always moving, having to take care of something or someone, right? I am all for being productive and making things happen but I also realize that we live in a world of opposites, yin and yang, light and dark, up and down, stop and go. Thus if we are in the go-go-go phase and never incorporate a stop the universe will always make sure we take one. When that happens it is usually a stop that we are not very happy with because it is usually a stop (cold/flu/injury/etc)  that will take us out of the game for a longer period of time than if we incorporated the stop ourselves.

Thus the reason for a day of Recharge – Relax – Reflect. This is a “stop” in my world of go-go-go. There are many ways of Recharging, Relaxing and Reflecting. Some like to read, travel, go snowboarding or other outdoor activities, sit in the park, visit friends, shop, yoga, meditate, take a bubble bath, walk around the block, heck even zoning out in front of the TV/Hulu/Netflix if you have a problem “turning off your brain” is an option.  Whatever options work for you, work on incorporating it into you weekly/monthly and if you are really making things happen, daily life and routine.

The Reflecting part is the section most people forget. They like the Recharge and Relax since it is fun, easy and pretty painless. The Reflecting part takes a little more work and if you are already a go-go-go person more work after some Relaxation and Recharging doesn’t always seem like the best thing to do. However, Reflecting will give you the greatest ROI down the road.

Why?

Perhaps you are doing things that could be done faster, easier and with less effort by “tweaking” a few things to make your processes better. Perhaps there are things and people in your world who are no longer going in the same direction as you are and it is time that they become a more part-time or every-once-n-awhile friend. Although how are you to discover this if you don’t take time to Reflect upon what is working and what is not. By Recharging and Relaxing first it gives our brain an opportunity to “chill”, remove it’s self from the situation or circumstances of life to give us a renewed perspective. Also it will ramp us back up into the go-go-go.

So what did I do today to Recharge-Relax-Reflect?
Worked out, Meditated, Watched some Hulu (since I haven’t had a TV for 10+yrs), Looked at some of my new Rocks (I got some pretty nice ones that I will be creating gifts with), Read a little about Reflexology & a bit from “Think and Grow Rich”, Had dinner with my family and played with my 3 yr old Nephew, Spoke with my friend from Canada that started my Reflecting process, Looked at and added to my White Board of Ideas/Projects/To-Do’s/Etc, and Wrote out the 3R’s. Living what I teach and teaching what I learn.

Hope this sparks and ignites within you the reminder to take time for the 3Rs.

Look forward to hearing your comments and emails on what you do to Recharge-Relax-Reflect.

Enjoy!!!

 

 

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H.A.R.T. Balloon Release does not tolerate bullying!

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Do you know what is happening in your local community?

A great friend of mine introduced me to an event that was happening at the local State College, Sacramento State, and asked if I would like to attend. 

Sure, what are we supporting?

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This is what she sent me…

H.A.R.T. Balloon Release

As human beings, we subconsciously keep a record of wrongs that has been done to us in the past. The act of holding a grudge is a habit by human nature; unaware of the negative effect it can have in life.

The H.A.R.T Balloon Release event is purposed for the public to take a step toward becoming a community that will not tolerate bullying. Prior to the main event of releasing the H.A.R.T. balloons, the public is welcome to stop by the Have H.A.R.T. booth to write something he or she desires to let go of. Whether it is a specific name, a personal reflection, or a negative memory, the idea is to identify an unhealthy resentment and have a physical written form of it..

Those who participate will be asked to return to the booth at 3pm, tie their piece of paper to a balloon, and release it along with all the other attendees. Releasing the balloon symbolizes being free of the written issue and moving on in life without any burdens.

 

SOLD! I am sooo In!

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Not only am I about supporting an awesome group of young, purpose driven individuals who rally together for the good of human kind but to have an opportunity for me to also release things that burden me is right up my alley. 

 

So off we went to the Sac State campus, ready to write down our burdens, connect with like-minded individuals and bring awareness to those around us. There was probably 50+ balloons and over 100 people in attendance on the quad that afternoon.

 

Messages written, tied onto the balloons and ready for lift off!

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It was an amazing feeling to physically write down (getting it out of your head, onto paper) a fear, set back, something that is holding you back and/or whatever it is you are wanting to release, tie it to a balloon,  LET IT GO, and watch it float away. The feeling I had afterwards was incredibly a sense of calm, ease and by the time we got back in our car to head home I was full of life and energy…bouncing in the car to the music and being silly. It was a symbolic gesture that had an emotional and physical release for me and one “tool” I had forgotten was so powerful.

My hope for sharing this with you today is to open your eyes to other “tools” of assisting you to release things in your world that are no longer serving you. Whether it be a balloon release with the community just as we did (feel free to create your own group too!), writing it down on paper and burning it (remember safety first), or connecting with a coach/councilor/mentor/friend there are many options. Also there are many resources (we heard about this from www.Sacramento365.com ) locally that can inform you of events and ways to be involved in your community.

Wishing you all the best on this beautiful day and never stop working on you!

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Up, Up and Away!

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Actions toward or involving others that reflect the integrity of the person you want to be.

Accountability Partners RULE

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Actions toward or involving others that reflect the integrity of the person you want to be.

Actions toward or involving others that reflect the integrity of the person you want to be.

Partner: One associated with another especially in an action.

Partner: One associated with another especially in an action.

Yesterday I had the honor of spending some “catch up time” with a friend and fellow energetic, young professional. We ended up chatting for about 2 ½ hours about life, what is new and exciting, new things we have learned, what is working and what is not in both our personal and professional worlds. By the end we came to the realization that we deserve and desire some assistance in order to get us to the next level in our lives. So what better way to do that than to become each other’s “Accountability Partner”.

What does that really mean though?
Accountability: Actions toward or involving others that reflect the integrity of the person you want to be.
Partner: One associated with another especially in an action.

We are both Entrepreneurs who have drive and ambition to get things done but we were both lacking in one particular area right now that we desire to be more consistent in. Knowing that it takes at least 21 days to form a new habit we decided to help each other out. So we both pull out our phones, open the calendar and SCHEDULE time to Meditate at 7am every morning. Then to hold each other accountable we will call or text afterwards.

Today was day one and even though my friend had a 7am meeting this morning he did not let that stop him. Nope, he got up a little earlier, got in his Meditation time, went to his meeting and sent me a text. As for me, I had my phone alarm set for a 6am wakeup to find that my body naturally woke me up at 7am! What happened? Not sure but somehow my phone died during the evening but because I set the intention and have someone to be accountable to, my internal alarm clock didn’t let me down. I too finished my Meditation and sent off my text.

It amazes me how sometimes we know we “should do” something like Meditate, eat foods that nourish our bodies or work out, and when we do it feel amazing afterwards, it is just “getting there and doing it” that seems to take the most effort. This is where your Accountability Partner comes in and assists you in staying on path and purpose with your goals and dreams. Coaches are also outstanding Accountability Partners especially since you have a financial tie and thus a motivator to do the work.

So what is it for you that you feel is something you know you “should” be doing but are not? Something that you know is a game changer in your life that when you do it consistently you KNOW will bring abundance into your world like you could never imagine? Great now that you have that in your mind, find a friend, mentor, coach, someone who can assist you in keeping you accountable. Please also feel free to reach out to me or the StandUpAndLead community on facebook http://www.facebook.com/StandUpAndLead .

I look forward to hearing how your life starts to change and blossom for the better after accomplishing your minimum of 21 day, habit changer.

Much Love,
Shay

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Masks…Wear for fun or for a Lifetime?

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The other day I was celebrating my good friend’s birthday and we went into a costume store to try on some Masks. We were having a really good time trying on ones with feathers, ones you tie behind your head, ones you hold onto, ones with tons of sparkle, different colors, etc. All of which gave us different looks depending on the mask we tried on. Later that evening after looking at our pictures and remembering the fun filled day, I got to thinking about people wearing their own masks in everyday life.

Have you ever met someone who when you met them they were fun, outgoing, nice, sociable  (their “going out” mask) then when you start to get to REALLY know them it seems like that mask flies off and you start to see their true colors? That recently happened to one of my clients. To the world her friend treated everyone one way and then behind closed doors would talk and gossip and demean the very person they just saw! It threw my client for a loop! She didn’t know 1) how to deal with this person now with this information and 2) if she really wanted to still be associated with them now that she saw the Mask come off.

Let’s take it from a different perspective. Are there Masks that you may wear in your own life? Perhaps you are a collector of Masks, both figuratively and/or literally. Why do you feel that is? What is it about the Masks that comfort you or why do you feel drawn to them? In my own life, my family had a wall of Masks, literally from all over the world. They were beautiful, exotic, and each had their own story associated with them. It wasn’t until things got “rocky” that an “Ah-Ha” moment showed up and the Masks were a part of the way things were dealt with and portrayed.  To the outside world it was one way, peaceful and serene, on the inside it was a rollercoaster full of huge ups and downs that created weird actions and responses that never made any sense. It wasn’t until the literal masks on the wall were taken a look at that the figurative Masks changed and started to be removed. I feel that sometimes we may require the Masks to keep us safe but I also feel that we are here to be our true, authentic self and in order to really be in that moment, that present moment, we must take off all the Masks. I know for myself that when I am my true authentic self, yes I have moments of sheer brilliance right next to moments of feeling like I want to fall on the floor and roll into a ball. That’s part of the human experience. We are all human, experiencing the world through our own lenses. Some of us have many Masks and it seems like we keep collecting more, others of us are peeling off the Masks and dealing with them one by one.

If you are one of the later, I congratulate you on doing the work. It isn’t always easy but knowing what has transpired in my life after the removal of Masks…I wouldn’t change it for the world. It is well worth it! Keep it up and know that there are people who love you regardless of which Mask you are working to remove right now and others who will probably leave your world because they choose to keep their Mask on and you just will no longer be able to relate to one another. That’s okay because the direction you are heading and the people who will show up in their place will be worth the work.

I applauded you. Give yourself credit. You deserve to be Mask Free!

With Love & Gratitude,

Shay Wheat

 

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Dreams…continue to sleep or chase after them?

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dreams-sleep or chase after them Every day you have the choice to hit the restart button or the snooze button. I love this note because it speaks to just that. 1. Hit the snooze button and continue to dream OR 2. Wake up and Chase your dreams.

So which one is it for you?

If you are someone who is on path and purpose you know exactly what direction you are headed and what you are doing. You are probably someone who is jumping out of bed even before the alarm clock goes off you are so excited. Awesome, keep chasing those dreams!

What if you are the person who would rather hit the snooze button, just one more time? What if you don’t know exactly what you are meant to do in this lifetime, what impact you are to make in the world, things may seem drab and you just don’t have that “get up and go” excited feeling. Then what?

Well, let me ask you this…what DO you enjoy doing?

If time and money was no object, you had a bank account that was bursting at the seams and all the time in the world, what would you be doing?

If the answer doesn’t come to you right away, you deserve to consciously learn to dream again, just as children do.  Your task right now is to pull out a piece of paper and start writing down things in each of the following categories.

I am happiest when I am….?  Reading a book, having an “Ah-ha” moment, helping children read, hearing that I was able to help a friend with a problem, spending time with family, being in nature, traveling the world, trying to uncover a mystery, creating a new app or program, speaking in front of a crowd, rearranging furniture or loving on animals.

Travel-where would you go? Some place with white sandy beaches & crystal clear blue water, perhaps the rain-forest  a cruise, the mountains, a spa resort, hiking, Comic-Con, go stand on a glacier, go on a bike ride overseas and raise money for your favorite charity or maybe take a trip around the world and see all of the 7 Wonders.

Home-Where would you live and what would it look like? A big custom home in the Alps, beach front property, a country ranch with 20 acres of land with horses, a high rise in the big city with a infinity pool overlooking the night life or perhaps a home for every season.

Vehicle-What car have you always wanted to have? Be detailed of the color and all the amenities that it would possess. Have you ever driven one before? If not I highly suggest you make that a priority this weekend, then take a picture of you in the car! Feel what it feels like to sit in the seats, experience the way it drives and how that makes you feel.

Who would you help? We all have people in our lives that have assisted us in our journey and since in this example we have unlimited funds and time…what would you do for those people that have helped you along the way? Buy them a house, assist with medical bills (heck pay them off), take them on a vacation, spend time with them, watch their kids for them while they go on a all expense paid date-your treat, shopping spree, cook them a gourmet meal (or have a amazing chef do it for you), perhaps even ask that special someone to spend the rest of their life with you?

Pinterest is a great place to assist you in opening your mind to dream again. You can create your own mini “dream boards” for all of the above.

My goal is not for you to get caught up in the materialism of these things but it will jump start you to start thinking about what you enjoy doing again. We deserve to Dream just as children do and for those of us that lost that along the way (like I did) this helps to get us jump started. Then we can take it to the next level but we must start somewhere.

Enjoy the Dreaming process, don’t turn any idea down no matter how crazy or if you feel you may never be able to afford it. There is no harm in writing it down or saving it to a Pinterest Board.

May you always remember to DREAM BIG!

With love,

Shay Wheat

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The Journey Is the Reward

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Have you noticed, as you start to do more personal development work, that friends and relationships may no longer work the way they used to. The time you had together fit then but no longer seems to fit now. That’s okay. People come into our lives for days, weeks, months, perhaps a season or for a lifetime. The goal is to learn the lesson and accept the blessings for the time you spend together.  You may also notice that the universe will test you. Test you to see if what you say you no longer want and what you want are in alignment with which direction you take when given the choice and opportunity to choose what you did in the past or choose the new path and new direction you say you want to go in.

It is also very interesting to watch this transpire as a coach because I get to see this happen in my clients world and I too get an opportunity choose the direction I will head (you can’t teach that what you don’t know and don’t experience, right!?). I too get to choose which relationships I will keep, who will fall away and who may re-enter my world down the line. Yes I am a coach that does talk the talk and walk the walk. I am on a journey just as you are and recently a very new friend came into my world, however he is one of those connections where you feel like you have known each other FOREVER! I feel this picture he sent sums it all up quite nicely “The Journey is the Reward”.

Enjoy your Journey my friends.

In Gratitude,

Shay Wheat

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Nemo, Upbringings and Comparisions

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  1. What does Dory from the Disney movie “Finding Nemo” have to do with human being upbringings and comparisons?
     I love sitting down with people with different backgrounds  and upbringings. It fascinates me to learn about their path and journey to where they are today. Yesterday I had a fantastic meeting with Jenifer M. and she mentioned something she has learned that really is quite impactful that I asked if I could share it.
    “Don’t compare your insides to others outsides”.
    Love that! Why do we compare ourselves to others? We have no idea what path and journey they are on and if they are “living their truth”. Things might look all fine and dandy on the outside but I’ve realized, through my coaching and training practice, that we all have things we are working on…myself included. :-)
    So in the words of the great “Dory” from the movie Finding Nemo,
    “Just keep swimming” aka  Stand Up And Lead

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I believe I am here for a reason and my purpose is greater than any of my challenges!

Inspirational Notes & Inspirational Quotes – August 29, 2012

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If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else.” -Yogi Berra

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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